Well, for now both of my children have homes, one in jail, soon to be prison, the other in Missouri (I am in Indiana). I should be able to relax, breath, as many of you have recommended. And to some degree I can. However I know with the release of my adult son in a year or two comes new worries which even though I can't do anything about, I am worried to death. He will face job rejections, denials to apartments, lack of family support due to his past drug convictions and mistrust in the general community not to mention having no drivers license. How do I just let go and when he gets out ignore all this? I know it is coming, it is just a matter of time, which is interfering with my current ability to just relax and totally enjoy my own life. I have a therapy appointment Wednesday, and I am sure I will be told to detach and that he is responsible for himself. But how painful it is for a mother who does not want to see the pain of homelessness and hunger and poverty again. Many of you have experienced the too, please send advise and comments, I am willing to meditate all this out and find a way for me to live with out this dread and anxiety.