A friend of mine at work who I have known for many years through our kids and working together at previous jobs, just found out yesterday that her husband is a cocaine addict and I feel so bad for her. I saw it in the paper yesterday and she's aware of my difficult child's addiction, so I called her this morning to let her know I'm here if she needs to talk and she started crying telling me that she didn't even know until it showed up in the paper yesterday. He was arrested for posession over a week ago, hired a lawyer, the hole bit, and never told her until it came out in the paper!!! My heart goes out to her and I told her if she wants to go to an alanon meeting, call me anywhere, anytime and I'll walk in the door with her because I have been there done that. I'm sure it's much different dealing with a spouse then it is your child, and she said she doesn't even know if she loves him anymore because she has been through so much this last year not knowing what was going on. I do know she needs to get herself some help though.