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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Everytime my son kinds of goes incommunicado I feel worried. A part of me feels it is kind of normal for a guy his age (19) but the other part of me really wonders what is going on. Last week one of my co-workers told me she had a friend in Fl who did construction and might know of some jobs available. So I texted him, he texted back and I sent him the guys number. That was Thursday. On Sat my coworker called because her friend had a friend who was hiring and they wanted my sons number which we gave her. So my husband texted him, no response. I texted him and left him a message on his phone, no response. It kind of ticks me off really that he can't at least let us know he got the message!! The owner of the house called to check in so I know he is ok and had a job interview someplace else....although she did comment they have to keep after him. He is also not checking in with the therapists at the rehab which worries me.
I know for me right now that part of detachment is letting it go. He is down there, there are people watching out for him and he needs to find his own way. My hope is that his lack of communication is kind of him doing that....finding his own way, on his own without us kind of looking over his shoulder. If that is true that is a good thing.... but of course my worry is that he is sliding downward.
I have to hold on and keep looking at the pictures my husband took of him two weeks ago when he saw him and he looked really great.
So as much as I talk about detachment and letting go it is just really hard to do.
Everytime my son kinds of goes incommunicado I feel worried. A part of me feels it is kind of normal for a guy his age (19) but the other part of me really wonders what is going on. Last week one of my co-workers told me she had a friend in Fl who did construction and might know of some jobs available. So I texted him, he texted back and I sent him the guys number. That was Thursday. On Sat my coworker called because her friend had a friend who was hiring and they wanted my sons number which we gave her. So my husband texted him, no response. I texted him and left him a message on his phone, no response. It kind of ticks me off really that he can't at least let us know he got the message!! The owner of the house called to check in so I know he is ok and had a job interview someplace else....although she did comment they have to keep after him. He is also not checking in with the therapists at the rehab which worries me.
I know for me right now that part of detachment is letting it go. He is down there, there are people watching out for him and he needs to find his own way. My hope is that his lack of communication is kind of him doing that....finding his own way, on his own without us kind of looking over his shoulder. If that is true that is a good thing.... but of course my worry is that he is sliding downward.
I have to hold on and keep looking at the pictures my husband took of him two weeks ago when he saw him and he looked really great.
So as much as I talk about detachment and letting go it is just really hard to do.