Last Saturday difficult child humbly returned an ipod touch he had stolen from his neighborhood bff, "Jack." Jack and family took it well, difficult child delivered written apology the next day, friendship resumes.
As part of his consequences, difficult child is told we will discuss ipod touch theft with counselor at appointment on Monday. During counseling discussion, difficult child reveals that Jack, (age 11, not 9 as previously stated,) watches porn on his ipod touch because his parents don't check the history. Lots of questions from counselor later, difficult child claims he has always refused to watch porn and only knows that term because Jack uses it.
That's not all. difficult child states that since March Jack has asked him 75 times to have "gay sex" with him. OH BOY. LOTS of questions later from counselor we learn that difficult child has always refused Jack's advances, even though Jack has taken to offering money in exchange for "gay sex" with difficult child. Jack has occasionally grabbed difficult child's privates, but always over clothes and always very briefly. Jack threatened to stop being difficult child's friend if difficult child told anyone about it.
To complete the picture -- Jack is diagnosis bipolar and takes Abilify. His mother, "Jane" informed me of this. Jack does not see a counselor.
How on earth am I going to tell Jane this? Jane is a nurse, which I hope will help her to remain calm while hearing me out. I'm worried that this is going to ruin our friendship totally. I like Jane and Jack, and am very concerned what might happen next.
(Incidentally, if anyone is wondering, easy child denies having any knowledge of or nteractions like this with Jack.)
As part of his consequences, difficult child is told we will discuss ipod touch theft with counselor at appointment on Monday. During counseling discussion, difficult child reveals that Jack, (age 11, not 9 as previously stated,) watches porn on his ipod touch because his parents don't check the history. Lots of questions from counselor later, difficult child claims he has always refused to watch porn and only knows that term because Jack uses it.
That's not all. difficult child states that since March Jack has asked him 75 times to have "gay sex" with him. OH BOY. LOTS of questions later from counselor we learn that difficult child has always refused Jack's advances, even though Jack has taken to offering money in exchange for "gay sex" with difficult child. Jack has occasionally grabbed difficult child's privates, but always over clothes and always very briefly. Jack threatened to stop being difficult child's friend if difficult child told anyone about it.
To complete the picture -- Jack is diagnosis bipolar and takes Abilify. His mother, "Jane" informed me of this. Jack does not see a counselor.
How on earth am I going to tell Jane this? Jane is a nurse, which I hope will help her to remain calm while hearing me out. I'm worried that this is going to ruin our friendship totally. I like Jane and Jack, and am very concerned what might happen next.
(Incidentally, if anyone is wondering, easy child denies having any knowledge of or nteractions like this with Jack.)