I was so frustrated with both of my kids this weekend. My dad and his wife were visiting and both kids were just miserable. I was truly embarrassed. difficult child spit on his plate, was loud, rude and extremely disrespectful to my dad's wife (who actually did nothing to bring any of this on this weekend).
easy child (and I use that term these days just to distinguish her from difficult child) was mad at me and played the hermit the entire time they were here except for the one time she asked if she could play Wii and I told her for 1/2 hour. She had the nerve to ask me to talk more quietly to my dad's wife so she could concentrate. Uh-no-you don't need to play if it's that difficult! Talk about embarrassing! She knows better!
Why was easy child mad at me? She was mad for a couple of reasons. One, I actually had the nerve to give her a consequence for leaving a huge scratch mark on difficult child. She had to wash, dry, and fold the kitchen towels. She kept delaying (over the course of two days) and I finally took her cell phone.
Two, we received her progress report in the mail. She is failing two classes. Two classes that she is capable of A work. She just isn't doing the work. She doesn't seem to care in the least. I know she is depressed and we are working on it but she can't use that for an excuse. She is mad because we tried to talk to her about it. I don't feel like I'm overly nagging and if she doesn't want to have the conversation do the work. At this rate she will lose her scholarship and end up having to do summer school!
Consequences don't seem to matter to her at all right now-natural or otherwise.
Oh and one more thing to add to my plate (I mentioned in KLMNO's thread about cutting), my mom informed me the other day that she has been cutting. I really can't take that on right now.
I hate to say that I'm actually looking forward to going to work tomorrow (not sure why though because the two of the three difficult children I have in class have really been off lately).
Thanks for listening to my vent!
easy child (and I use that term these days just to distinguish her from difficult child) was mad at me and played the hermit the entire time they were here except for the one time she asked if she could play Wii and I told her for 1/2 hour. She had the nerve to ask me to talk more quietly to my dad's wife so she could concentrate. Uh-no-you don't need to play if it's that difficult! Talk about embarrassing! She knows better!
Why was easy child mad at me? She was mad for a couple of reasons. One, I actually had the nerve to give her a consequence for leaving a huge scratch mark on difficult child. She had to wash, dry, and fold the kitchen towels. She kept delaying (over the course of two days) and I finally took her cell phone.
Two, we received her progress report in the mail. She is failing two classes. Two classes that she is capable of A work. She just isn't doing the work. She doesn't seem to care in the least. I know she is depressed and we are working on it but she can't use that for an excuse. She is mad because we tried to talk to her about it. I don't feel like I'm overly nagging and if she doesn't want to have the conversation do the work. At this rate she will lose her scholarship and end up having to do summer school!
Consequences don't seem to matter to her at all right now-natural or otherwise.
Oh and one more thing to add to my plate (I mentioned in KLMNO's thread about cutting), my mom informed me the other day that she has been cutting. I really can't take that on right now.
I hate to say that I'm actually looking forward to going to work tomorrow (not sure why though because the two of the three difficult children I have in class have really been off lately).
Thanks for listening to my vent!