klmno
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My son tells me this morning that he got up after I went to bed and read every posts I'd written on here yesterday. Yes, I should have locked up the keyboard and mouse in the car. He seemed better about the cutting situatiion yesterday - in ways I won't get into right now.
Then, today, I made a list of things we needed to get accomplished and scheduled our time out. I did it in order to have things compelted before dinner so that after dinner I was going to let him put up the tree. I hadn't even planned on having a tree this year but after reading the great things about Christmas thread on the WC and thinking about everything, I thought this might be a good thing to surprise him with tonight.
But, no, he was supposed to spend 1 1/2 hr on make up work for school while I was paying bills and going over some IEP stuff, then we were going to go to the copy place so he could make and print 2 Christmas cards which was his idea and something he really wanted to do. At 12:00, I came to the office to start on bills and he acted like he was starting homework. Then, 2 mins later, he snuck out the back door.
I turned the phone on and 1 min later, boy calls, I answer, boy hangs up. Then, 3 mins later, another call from "private", I answer, it was a younger boy (My guess is it's the younger bro of that other kid). He says "difficult child??", I say no, he's not here but if you see him, you might better tell him to get home because I'm calling police. He says "oh" and hangs up. Now, that was dumb on my part because difficult child knows that I already know it's pointless to call police. They will say call PO and leave message, unless difficult child was doing something illegal.
It's pointless calling PO and leaving message. That's what I did 2 mos ago and she never returned call. She waited until next scheduled appointment- about 3 weeks later and put difficult child on house arrest for 3 weeks (no monitor/ankle bracelet- just grounded). And, she said if he didn't stay home while being on house arrest, she would schedule him to appear before judge again (which would take at least a few weeks to get done). So, I am not going to sit here and wait until Jan to discuss this with PO. (The same PO of course who had told judge that I should be held accountable for where my son is.) I wish I could call her and say put him on the ankle bracelet TODAY..and that she would do it. difficult child KNOWS that I can't get anything done or get any back-up what-so-ever today or tomorrow- this is exactly why he just turns around and does what he wants.
I emailed the principal and told her things were critical at home and I have been calling people for over a week to get some help and asked that she please call me because they are spiraling to a worse situation.
My mom has been emailing and leaving messages acting like I won't let difficult child contact her. difficult child hasn't tried to call her and I'm trying to deal with a crisis. Now, I need to call my mom and tell her something and try to keep her from either acting like this is all about her (because of course, everything in the world is) and hope she doesn't start making a gazillion phone calls crying to my bro or GAL or lord knows who else. I wish I had a mother who would have gotten up here and helped a little before things got to this point
Then, today, I made a list of things we needed to get accomplished and scheduled our time out. I did it in order to have things compelted before dinner so that after dinner I was going to let him put up the tree. I hadn't even planned on having a tree this year but after reading the great things about Christmas thread on the WC and thinking about everything, I thought this might be a good thing to surprise him with tonight.
But, no, he was supposed to spend 1 1/2 hr on make up work for school while I was paying bills and going over some IEP stuff, then we were going to go to the copy place so he could make and print 2 Christmas cards which was his idea and something he really wanted to do. At 12:00, I came to the office to start on bills and he acted like he was starting homework. Then, 2 mins later, he snuck out the back door.
I turned the phone on and 1 min later, boy calls, I answer, boy hangs up. Then, 3 mins later, another call from "private", I answer, it was a younger boy (My guess is it's the younger bro of that other kid). He says "difficult child??", I say no, he's not here but if you see him, you might better tell him to get home because I'm calling police. He says "oh" and hangs up. Now, that was dumb on my part because difficult child knows that I already know it's pointless to call police. They will say call PO and leave message, unless difficult child was doing something illegal.
It's pointless calling PO and leaving message. That's what I did 2 mos ago and she never returned call. She waited until next scheduled appointment- about 3 weeks later and put difficult child on house arrest for 3 weeks (no monitor/ankle bracelet- just grounded). And, she said if he didn't stay home while being on house arrest, she would schedule him to appear before judge again (which would take at least a few weeks to get done). So, I am not going to sit here and wait until Jan to discuss this with PO. (The same PO of course who had told judge that I should be held accountable for where my son is.) I wish I could call her and say put him on the ankle bracelet TODAY..and that she would do it. difficult child KNOWS that I can't get anything done or get any back-up what-so-ever today or tomorrow- this is exactly why he just turns around and does what he wants.
I emailed the principal and told her things were critical at home and I have been calling people for over a week to get some help and asked that she please call me because they are spiraling to a worse situation.
My mom has been emailing and leaving messages acting like I won't let difficult child contact her. difficult child hasn't tried to call her and I'm trying to deal with a crisis. Now, I need to call my mom and tell her something and try to keep her from either acting like this is all about her (because of course, everything in the world is) and hope she doesn't start making a gazillion phone calls crying to my bro or GAL or lord knows who else. I wish I had a mother who would have gotten up here and helped a little before things got to this point