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Here we go again!
Many of our difficult child's have social skills problems and don't have a large circle of friends, if any. Mine is no exception. He invited about a dozen boys from school to his birthday party last month and only three came (and one was the teacher's son, so who knows if that was just a sympathetic show of support).
At any rate, difficult child 2 was feeling down and a bit emotional last week because of his continued ostracizing by peers at school. The vice principal had set up a group game at recess and got a bunch of kids involved, including difficult child 2, but as soon as she left, they all abandoned difficult child 2. Then, when he left the area, they all got together and resumed the game. Kids can just be downright mean.
So I suggested that he invite one of the boys who came to his birthday party over for a play date this weekend. He seemed doubtful the boy would want to, and I told him he wouldn't know until he asked. So he did, and the boy accepted, much to his delight.
This boy is a bright, easy-going kid who is unpretentious and humble. He's known difficult child 2 for several years so it's a good, comfortable match. They're sitting together on the LR floor playing a Wii ATV game and seem to be enjoying themselves. I'm so happy for difficult child 2!
The last play date he had last Spring he was very anxious and hypomanic at the time. He cried and obsessed over whether his room was clean enough before the kid came over and was up 'til after midnight worrying about it. Today he was MUCH more relaxed (had to remind him to tidy up -- much more like a "normal" kid). So that is another reminder that his medications are doing the job.
At any rate, difficult child 2 was feeling down and a bit emotional last week because of his continued ostracizing by peers at school. The vice principal had set up a group game at recess and got a bunch of kids involved, including difficult child 2, but as soon as she left, they all abandoned difficult child 2. Then, when he left the area, they all got together and resumed the game. Kids can just be downright mean.
So I suggested that he invite one of the boys who came to his birthday party over for a play date this weekend. He seemed doubtful the boy would want to, and I told him he wouldn't know until he asked. So he did, and the boy accepted, much to his delight.
This boy is a bright, easy-going kid who is unpretentious and humble. He's known difficult child 2 for several years so it's a good, comfortable match. They're sitting together on the LR floor playing a Wii ATV game and seem to be enjoying themselves. I'm so happy for difficult child 2!
The last play date he had last Spring he was very anxious and hypomanic at the time. He cried and obsessed over whether his room was clean enough before the kid came over and was up 'til after midnight worrying about it. Today he was MUCH more relaxed (had to remind him to tidy up -- much more like a "normal" kid). So that is another reminder that his medications are doing the job.