Okay - difficult child's x-girldfirned has fight with her mother end of June and moves out and into the apartment of a man. At this tiny apartment, there is difficult child's x-girlfriend, her boyfriend, 3 of his 5 children (from three different relationships) and my grandson and his sister. My grandchildren don't have beds! The little girl who is 4 sleeps with the 16 y/o daughter, the baby sleeps in a playpen. He doesn't have his walker or his high chair. It is clean and I know they have the baby cared for because we take care of everything for him. There is no abuse involved. So...what I want to know is this: husband and I are willing to keep our grandson and grand-daughter too until their Mom can get herself a place. I doubt that she would go for anything legal. We would just like to make sure our grandson is taken care of. How would you phrase this to the x-girlfriend? We have not told difficult child our proposed plans whatsoever - we rarely see him and he has not paid any support for this child. Advice??