Hello everyone. This is my first thread/posting on the net, so stick with me! I think I have a difficult child, waiting on an evaluation begining next week. I can't wait. Spent years going around in the same circle, blaming myself, my partner my difficult child, never finding a solution or getting many results. If I could list a few things, would someone mind telling me if they see any similarities between my child and theirs? Some days I feel I know by my guts what the matter is and then I collapse in dispair.
I have 3 children, difficult child daughter of 17, easy child son 11 and easy child daughter 9. My partner of 17 years is the bio dad of my two youngest. difficult child's dad abandoned me at the last minute! Nice bloke. Things have not been text book!
My difficult child was very bright, mobile early, walked at 10 months and met all of her milestones early. She was very explorative and always fearless, beyond what I would call average! No just wasn't and never has been an option. She could not concentrate for long or sit and play. A story was nearly impossible, toys were broken rather than played with, I couldn't leave her safely in a room on her own, she has always been impulsive, never learnt from any mistakes, always felt hard done by, would wreck her room if I/we needed time out, 'escaped' from the house from an early age (2), not responsible for anything, high on additives to the point that the glaze on her eyes would bubble and her lips swelled, lies, cheats, steals, smokes, violent and aggressive if she can't have her own way, the negative list is endless. I feel bad for all of this. I have tried to be a good mum and my parenting style works on my other 2.
On the plus side, she has always excelled at drama, could read and write before she went to school ( she was the teacher and I was the pupil ) she has a near photographic memory for text, worked hard when she had a job, tho she couldn't follow the dress code and stole from her employer and their child, was brilliant at public speaking and can party as an olympic sport:crazy1:.
I just feel worn down with her dishonesty and apparent inability to consider anyone else. She has no control over her spending, has lost most of her friends, been arrested and is now living with my mum whilst we get some help. I have done all I can and love her with every inch of me but it hurts. Our life seems to be one problem after another and it is suffocating us. I feel responsible but have not been able to take charge of the situation, no matter how hard I try.
Has anyone else been here? I don't feel like a natural mum. I can't stand her sometimes. Am I crazy?
Thanks for listening............ Dizzy xxx
I have 3 children, difficult child daughter of 17, easy child son 11 and easy child daughter 9. My partner of 17 years is the bio dad of my two youngest. difficult child's dad abandoned me at the last minute! Nice bloke. Things have not been text book!
My difficult child was very bright, mobile early, walked at 10 months and met all of her milestones early. She was very explorative and always fearless, beyond what I would call average! No just wasn't and never has been an option. She could not concentrate for long or sit and play. A story was nearly impossible, toys were broken rather than played with, I couldn't leave her safely in a room on her own, she has always been impulsive, never learnt from any mistakes, always felt hard done by, would wreck her room if I/we needed time out, 'escaped' from the house from an early age (2), not responsible for anything, high on additives to the point that the glaze on her eyes would bubble and her lips swelled, lies, cheats, steals, smokes, violent and aggressive if she can't have her own way, the negative list is endless. I feel bad for all of this. I have tried to be a good mum and my parenting style works on my other 2.
On the plus side, she has always excelled at drama, could read and write before she went to school ( she was the teacher and I was the pupil ) she has a near photographic memory for text, worked hard when she had a job, tho she couldn't follow the dress code and stole from her employer and their child, was brilliant at public speaking and can party as an olympic sport:crazy1:.
I just feel worn down with her dishonesty and apparent inability to consider anyone else. She has no control over her spending, has lost most of her friends, been arrested and is now living with my mum whilst we get some help. I have done all I can and love her with every inch of me but it hurts. Our life seems to be one problem after another and it is suffocating us. I feel responsible but have not been able to take charge of the situation, no matter how hard I try.
Has anyone else been here? I don't feel like a natural mum. I can't stand her sometimes. Am I crazy?
Thanks for listening............ Dizzy xxx