I'm keeping everyones' suggestions in mind. I plan on pushing the neuropsychologist with his psychiatrist this week. I am now very suspicious of drugs since hearing there are ones that don't show on tests. I feel like a spy. If he's in the bathroom to long, I find an excuse to go in right after him and search the bathroom. (Not always the most pleasant thing to do after a teen boy uses the facilities!) I'm sending him for his yearly physical this week and asking the doctor to keep an eye out for any signs of drug use and to do any additional tests he can do for drugs.
My difficult child was jumped by two brothers 16 & 19. The 19 keep threatening to damage his car to distract him. The 16 yr sucker punched him. My son was watching the older kid, heard the younger say something. As he turned to him, the kid punched him. Broke his nose in 2 places. Literally moved bones so far one nostral was totally blocked by bone. He also got whiplash. My son managed to get in his car, getting the door damaged in the process cause the 16 kept kicking it shut, and drove away. Of course he didn't call me, he called his friends. He was sitting in a grocery store parking lot a bloody mess, and thank god, some good samaritan called the police. I know it bothered my son a lot. He was embarrassed that he'd done nothing to defend himself and that the other kid went away unscathed. His flight response jumped in and got him out of there. Had he defended himself, I'm sure it would have been much worse. Two against one and they had police batons. The police showed no interest in the attack, assuming it was a planned fight I guess. I can't blame him for not thinking to highly of the police department after that. He was also bullied from 2 - 6th grade, and the school would do nothing. He makes a lot of comments now about being tired of being bullied, and having to take sh** from people.
I talked to him about huffing. He says he's never done it, doesn't want to die. He explained about the heavy gases filling your lungs. At least I know he understands the risks involved. Whether they'd stop him or not, I don't know. He admits to smoking a lot of pot during the month I know he was into it. Also said he's done mushrooms. Swear's he never sold any drugs, but people would call him cause he could refer them to a source. He'd get a finder fee or marijuana. I told him I still considered that dealing. Hhe was helping kids find drugs, and it's wrong! He didn't agree of course.
I know he's drinking, but I haven't caught him noticeably drunk yet or smelled it on him. I've had 6 beers I took out of his car 2 weeks ago sitting in plain view in the garage. All he's said is the kid that bought it would like them back. I said "to bad", and they're still sitting there. I guess their not that big a temptation.
Right now I'm just going to push for more testing. Hopefully his doctors will figure something more definite out with more time. Hope, hope.