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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Well I have been just waiting it out wondering how long I would have to wait until I heard from him. So today I get a text msg "could really use that bike about now"!!! Is he kidding me? We had originally told him we would give him a sears card for clothes and my dad would pay for an inexpensive bike for Xmas. Well there is no way we are giving him any of that until he gets his life back on track...
I had not heard anything from him since Thurs and have had no idea where he is or what he is doing since then? Can you say worried mama?? So I calmly texted him back "What is going on?
We have no idea where you are or what yo are doing?"
So then he texts me "Ive been on the beach and to the store and the beach and the store. Its a 3 mile trip each way. Can I go to Sears and get a bike?"
I said "No you need to figure out what you are going to do to get back on track...we aren't giving you money or a bike until you do that"
So then he said he is doing that. They said he needs to stay out of the sober house and tx for a week and then he can go back!!!!!
I told him that was good and asked a couple of more questions and have not heard back from him. I think he realizes I am not getting him a bike and so he is quiet again!!
However I like this place! I think making him somehow live on his own, on the beach for a week, to find out how hard his choices really are is a brilliant idea. Then let him come back and give him a chance to turn it around. I think that is good. Of course he wants me to make it easier so he doesn't have to walk 6 miles round trip to the store!!!..... Well poor baby, the exercise is good for him and not outrageous given he doesn't have anything else to do right now. I do now want to make this week easy on him!!!I want it to be hard and for him to have to work hard to make it through so he will want a better life than his choices have been giving him.
Of course I worry about him being homeless, on the beach for a week.... but at least he has a goal and knows he can do something about his situation... which will motivate him.
So I am still worried but less so.... and hopefully he will get through this.
TL
Well I have been just waiting it out wondering how long I would have to wait until I heard from him. So today I get a text msg "could really use that bike about now"!!! Is he kidding me? We had originally told him we would give him a sears card for clothes and my dad would pay for an inexpensive bike for Xmas. Well there is no way we are giving him any of that until he gets his life back on track...
I had not heard anything from him since Thurs and have had no idea where he is or what he is doing since then? Can you say worried mama?? So I calmly texted him back "What is going on?
We have no idea where you are or what yo are doing?"
So then he texts me "Ive been on the beach and to the store and the beach and the store. Its a 3 mile trip each way. Can I go to Sears and get a bike?"
I said "No you need to figure out what you are going to do to get back on track...we aren't giving you money or a bike until you do that"
So then he said he is doing that. They said he needs to stay out of the sober house and tx for a week and then he can go back!!!!!
I told him that was good and asked a couple of more questions and have not heard back from him. I think he realizes I am not getting him a bike and so he is quiet again!!
However I like this place! I think making him somehow live on his own, on the beach for a week, to find out how hard his choices really are is a brilliant idea. Then let him come back and give him a chance to turn it around. I think that is good. Of course he wants me to make it easier so he doesn't have to walk 6 miles round trip to the store!!!..... Well poor baby, the exercise is good for him and not outrageous given he doesn't have anything else to do right now. I do now want to make this week easy on him!!!I want it to be hard and for him to have to work hard to make it through so he will want a better life than his choices have been giving him.
Of course I worry about him being homeless, on the beach for a week.... but at least he has a goal and knows he can do something about his situation... which will motivate him.
So I am still worried but less so.... and hopefully he will get through this.
TL