mom23gsfg
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day in and day out.sad to say but if i knew exactly what i was getting into before my marraige ..i just dont think i would've went through with it!my mother in law and father in law live right below us(in another house)...and some how every day some one wants something...
i think i have enough to deal with already what with my son in the hospital,another child that stays sick most days,and all the things that need to be done around here.and still they know these things and (not my father in law) but my mother in law calls evey day ....and then i have my hubby's bros and sises calling wanting to know if i can do this and that for their mom and dad...
i really wouldnt mind it so much if it was once in a while but this is every day...and when they get the notion to go to town they go and do their fun things and when they get back ...here go the phone calls again...will you go to the store for me...pay my bills for me?and sorry but with gas as expensive as it is now i cant afford to go to town every day!and no offer of helping with gas.
dont get me wrong i love them dearly but i just cant do it any more.but when i try to explain ive got other things to do she gets mad.even when she knows we have plans with the kids or etc. it goes on and on.and only one sister in law will help them out when she can.
also,we have to live on a strict income and she expects me to send her a plate evey day!i dont know how many meals i have missed because my hubby will tell her he's sending her something after she asks and theres not enough,and then he gets mad at me for telling him there wasnt enough for anyone else when he sees i havent eaten.
uh oh theres the phone ringing again!... :grrr:
yep guees who..."will you...?"and if i dont answer the phone will ring non stop until i answer and i cant unplug it because of my children.
i have tried to talk with my hubby about this but he doesnt understand my delemia.he thinks its my obligation to do these things,however when she asks him to do something ..he curses under his breath and some how throws it into my lap to do..
what im really afraid of is i have an eratic heartrate also bipolar disoder and i keep losing the feeling in my legs and having chest pains..i finally took the time for my self last year to go to the doctor and she said i was under too much stress and i was going to end up with a stroke or with much more stress my bipolar symptoms could get worse even with the medications because of too much stress,
im only 31 but heart disease runs on both side of my family and my dad had his first stroke at the age of 29 and died at the age of 34
also last year right after i went to the doctor i ended up in the icu unit ..they lost me twice on the way there ...i hadnt been sleeping and i had been forgetting to take my medications where i was under so much stress so when i went she also put me on sleeping tabs ...needless to say stupid me i got so run down i took one and ..nothing so i tried another ..nothing so i took another (this went on for about 2 hrs.)...then i got so sleepy i wasnt paying attention and accidently got them mixed up with my other medications and took 2 more ...and finally i fell asleep..and i woke up in a drugged dazed thinking i hadnt taken my medications and yep taking more of the sleeps instead of my regular medications
luckily my mom called me and i told her i felt real funny and couldnt breathe and when they got here they said i had taken almost the whole bottle ....
needless to say i never take any sleep aids any more and never take my medications when im worn out or just woken up because i cant remember anything when i first wake up...im rambling so ill stop now
but soon as i got home from the hospital i got another phone call... :grrr:
i think i have enough to deal with already what with my son in the hospital,another child that stays sick most days,and all the things that need to be done around here.and still they know these things and (not my father in law) but my mother in law calls evey day ....and then i have my hubby's bros and sises calling wanting to know if i can do this and that for their mom and dad...
i really wouldnt mind it so much if it was once in a while but this is every day...and when they get the notion to go to town they go and do their fun things and when they get back ...here go the phone calls again...will you go to the store for me...pay my bills for me?and sorry but with gas as expensive as it is now i cant afford to go to town every day!and no offer of helping with gas.
dont get me wrong i love them dearly but i just cant do it any more.but when i try to explain ive got other things to do she gets mad.even when she knows we have plans with the kids or etc. it goes on and on.and only one sister in law will help them out when she can.
also,we have to live on a strict income and she expects me to send her a plate evey day!i dont know how many meals i have missed because my hubby will tell her he's sending her something after she asks and theres not enough,and then he gets mad at me for telling him there wasnt enough for anyone else when he sees i havent eaten.
uh oh theres the phone ringing again!... :grrr:
yep guees who..."will you...?"and if i dont answer the phone will ring non stop until i answer and i cant unplug it because of my children.
i have tried to talk with my hubby about this but he doesnt understand my delemia.he thinks its my obligation to do these things,however when she asks him to do something ..he curses under his breath and some how throws it into my lap to do..
what im really afraid of is i have an eratic heartrate also bipolar disoder and i keep losing the feeling in my legs and having chest pains..i finally took the time for my self last year to go to the doctor and she said i was under too much stress and i was going to end up with a stroke or with much more stress my bipolar symptoms could get worse even with the medications because of too much stress,
im only 31 but heart disease runs on both side of my family and my dad had his first stroke at the age of 29 and died at the age of 34
also last year right after i went to the doctor i ended up in the icu unit ..they lost me twice on the way there ...i hadnt been sleeping and i had been forgetting to take my medications where i was under so much stress so when i went she also put me on sleeping tabs ...needless to say stupid me i got so run down i took one and ..nothing so i tried another ..nothing so i took another (this went on for about 2 hrs.)...then i got so sleepy i wasnt paying attention and accidently got them mixed up with my other medications and took 2 more ...and finally i fell asleep..and i woke up in a drugged dazed thinking i hadnt taken my medications and yep taking more of the sleeps instead of my regular medications
luckily my mom called me and i told her i felt real funny and couldnt breathe and when they got here they said i had taken almost the whole bottle ....
needless to say i never take any sleep aids any more and never take my medications when im worn out or just woken up because i cant remember anything when i first wake up...im rambling so ill stop now
but soon as i got home from the hospital i got another phone call... :grrr: