Well, I haven’t post since June, because I have gotten much better handling my daughter situation but here we go again , only this time is my son...I guess is a never ending story with our adult children, but I have to said I’m definitely more prepared now after going thru hell with our daughter.She is doing well, working a full time and working her program of recovery from substance abuse, taking her medications for bipolar disorder , depression and anxiety and as long as she take care of herself , she functions .Now is my son, he doesn’t use drugs but obviously he have some depression or maybe just trying to control our lives, the reality is, I never live up to his expectations, everything I do or said can upset or hurt him and honestly I’m done trying because is never enough, always bringing stuff from the past and blame me of everything or anything, from being a bad mother and not giving him anything ( obviously not true) We sacrifice so much my husband and I for this kids that I think that was our mistake,now that we are in our fifties , we finally got our new home in a beautiful community and we are enjoying our life, well is that what bothers them? Anyway, he is 31 and I have apologized for what he said I did wrong but what else can I do? Now he is not responding to my messages, since about a week and just because he find out I went to dinner with his sister...really? I feel he always wants to control my life and is not happening ... and yesterday her partner call me, saying he is worry because he is very depressed...I can’t force him to get help, he is not even talking to me,( this is the second time he stops talking to me) what am I supposed to do? Any advice...thank you for listening, I didn’t want to go into details so it won’t be too long but I hope I get some advice from any of you going thru the same thing. I have been taking care of myself and I’m so much better at detaching with love but is this the right thing to do?