(((HUGS))) and welcome! You have stumbled across a wonderful site for support of all kinds. Finding this site has helped me tremendously! I have been able to detach because of these amazing parents. I was once lost in my daughter's world and unable to function daily. I was depressed and completely suffocated by pain. I suffered every minute I was awake. It took many years for me to detach enough to live in the moment but I did it. It is still a daily struggle. I try to take it one day at a time. I do have sad days but I am able to have happy ones now too.
You might want to do a signature at the bottom of your page so that we can all get to know you a bit. Others will be along to share their wisdom.
Hang in there, there are better days to come.