Well, This is the first time I've hit up this board. Until recently my over 18 one was pretty much a easy child. my next oldest wasn't 18 yet. How things change lol. My 20 yr old used to be a great kid. He still mostly is, just basically driving us crazy. He's in his last semester of college (2 class combined block of 3 hours 1 day a week), majoring in restaurant management/culinary arts. He works part time for 2 places. No issue there, but he's also selling Amway...which drives me nuts. He's convinced he's going to get rich off of it, spends most of his money on it, goes out of town to all sorts of events for it (which also cost a fortune). He schedules off of work for it, doesnt get homework done. And his next person up/mentor whatever he is...is his best friend. He's turned into a total salesman, ugh. And this other kid has him at his beck and call all the time. If he shows up at midnight at the house, he expects my son to take off with him. Which he does, regardless of the house rules forbidding it. He pretty much does what he wants, getting more and more disrespectful. I hate to have to kick him out just yet since he probably won't finish school if i do, and he has no money to get a place. Said 'friend' still lives with his mom lol. Then there's my 18 yr old. The kid has pretty serious emotional problems. He's definitely socially anxious and inept. Used to think Aspie fitted him pretty well. He has a learning disability in writing. He has terrible hygeine, won't ask anyone for a job, couldnt fill out an application on his own that would be at all presentable considering he can't spell or write legibly. He's really smart. He's awesome at math and science and technology including mechanics. But boy does he have an attitude with the rest of us at home. He volunteers for our church running the sound board and computer system, he's done various odd jobs for folks from there when asked, never hesistates to help them. at home of course...not so much lol. I had him fill out an application for occupational rehab this week, so maybe they can help him with getting a job. My biggest problem with him is how he treats everyone else, especially my son that was just diagnosed with schizophrenia spectrum and psychotic disorder. I know his abuse will make that disorder worse. I guess I'm kinda stuck with these two for at least a few more months, until 20 yr old gets done with school and a real job, and 18 yr old finally gets a job and shows he can do it. If anyone has ideas, I'd be glad to hear them. I live in a little town of about 40k people, not like there's many places for them to go, no family in the state or anything.