I'm drafting a list of house rules that must be followed and will be enforced when difficult child returns home (don't know when that will be though). This will be presented to my difficult child on Monday at our family meeting while in his current placement. Please let me know what has or hasn't worked in your home. Thanks!! This is what I have so far... House Rules Draft August 2007 1. You will only leave the house or associate in any way with people who we approve of (list to follow). 2. All requests to leave the house and for money will be recorded, by you, in a log. 3. Do not possess or consume alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, or any illegal substance. 4. Submit to random drug & alcohol tests. 5. Cell phone privilege, as you know it, is over (final plan TBD). 6. Money will be EARNED not given (specific jobs with $ amounts TBD). 7. We will hold all earned money until requested for specific reason that we approve of. 8. Receipts for ALL items purchased must be presented and change, if any, returned to us. Cash and receipts must reconcile. 9. NO Violence! PO will be called immediately for any aggressive or out of control behavior. 10. All discussions will be between all three of us (Mike, mom, Jim). No requests will be considered if any attempt is made to split us. 11. Discussions will immediately end when we say so, no pushing, bickering, name-calling will be tolerated. 12. Chores will be done in a timely manner. 13. Keep your room and bathroom clean will be checked daily. Take care of your own laundry. 14. Homework will be done at a set time and place (TBD: place will be on 1st floor, end time will by 8 PM). 15. Treat parents, teachers, Probation Officer, counselors, etc. with respect at all times. 16. Curfew (to include time to be home, electronics off, bedtime, wake time, etc.) TBD. 17. You will go to school on time, attend each class on time, and stay the entire day. This document is a draft; it is not all-inclusive or final. We will be talking with your probation officer and therapists; therefore, some changes are likely to occur. All involved will sign the final document. Any rules not followed will have consequences, either loss of privileges or a phone call to your probation officer or police, if necessary. These rules will be vigorously enforced; not so much to be punitive (although it will feel that way) but to save your life. We love you very much.