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bran155
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Hi all. Some of you might remember when my daughter was in jail an old friend who is BiPolar (BP) was going to visit her. She really wanted to help my daughter. Nice girl with lots and lots of problems. She was addicted to crack for many years, had about 12 CPS cases on her, prostituted herself for drugs, was in a very abusive relationship and her mom passed away. She has a 10 year old daughter who has ADHD and is developmentally delayed. She has a boyfriend who just got out of prison for selling drugs after 22 months. He just came home 2 weeks ago. Before he came home she was doing really well. My sister and I sort of took her under our wings, we were trying to keep her as stable as possible. She does take her medications and does go to therapy.
Since the boyfriend came home her life has taken a downward spiral!!! She also found out that while on visitation with her father her daughter was drinking. Her father (the abuser) is an alchoholic and a recovering addict. (used to get high together) Her daughter came home from a visit and told her that she did not want to ever go back to her dads house again. She went on to tell my friend that her father was putting liquor and beer in her drinks. Making her drink. She said that she would drink it until she felt dizzy!!!! Sick right? So my friend was a mess over this. Called CPS on him and got an order of protection. After this she finds out that her boyfriend who has been home for only a few days (at that point) is talking to other girls and his ex. She took care of him, of course, while he was doing his time.
Since she has had so many previous CPS cases brought against her they are now investigating her yet again. Because now CPS is involved with regards to the father and she has such a long history with them they are on her butt too.
She started talking about suicide. She wanted to take her medications all at once and just go to sleep. My sister and I convinced her to sign herself into the hospital. She fought us tooth and nail but we finally got her to do it. She then signs herself right out!!! She only spent 2 nights there. No medication change, no nothing. All they did was add Klonopine to her list of medications. Only makes her worse. All she does now is sleep all day. She is a complete mess again. She was doing so well before her boyfriend came home. She was on top of the world. Feeling great, doing great. Upbeat and positive. Since he has been home she has made a total turn around for the worse!!! I want her to go back into the hospital but here is what she is telling me: She can't because CPS told her that if she did they would take her daughter away. They also told her if she stops her medications they will take her away. Okay, I can believe that if she stops taking her medications they will take her daughter away but I find it very hard to believe that if she seeks treatment she needs, like putting herself into the hospital that they will take her daughter???? If she has a stable responsible person to take care of her daughter then why on earth would they want to take her daughter away for getting help. I think she is lying about that because she doesn't want to go into the hospital. What do you think? I just don't think that makes sense. Would'nt CPS want her to get help so that she can be a better mother???
I think she has a lot on her plate and just can't handle it. It is very frustrating to my sister and I because we know that the boyfriend is a huge trigger for her. He is a bum. In and out of prison, cheats on her and lives off of her. I know that she would be better off without him. She was doing so well before he came home. Now she is a mess. Too concerned with what he is doing. The second day he was home she had drama with the ex girlfriend. Childish phone stuff, ya know? She so needs to dump this guy. She has no self esteem so she just puts up with it to be loved. Of course we all know that what he is giving her is not love!!! And I know that I cannot make her leave him. But how on earth do I help her now? She won't go back into the hospital. She takes her medications and sleeps all day. The doctor told her to take the Klonopines as a prn but she takes them 3 times a day. I, of course told her not to as that is why she is sleeping all day. She does not need to take them, she wants to. She has an appointment with the psychiatrist tomorrow that I am trying to convince her to let me come to. I would love to talk with him. I don't think she really wants me to. I am afraid for her. I do not want that dreaded phone call that she really did kill herself!!!!
What can I do to help her? Any advice would be much appreciated.
Shawna
Since the boyfriend came home her life has taken a downward spiral!!! She also found out that while on visitation with her father her daughter was drinking. Her father (the abuser) is an alchoholic and a recovering addict. (used to get high together) Her daughter came home from a visit and told her that she did not want to ever go back to her dads house again. She went on to tell my friend that her father was putting liquor and beer in her drinks. Making her drink. She said that she would drink it until she felt dizzy!!!! Sick right? So my friend was a mess over this. Called CPS on him and got an order of protection. After this she finds out that her boyfriend who has been home for only a few days (at that point) is talking to other girls and his ex. She took care of him, of course, while he was doing his time.
Since she has had so many previous CPS cases brought against her they are now investigating her yet again. Because now CPS is involved with regards to the father and she has such a long history with them they are on her butt too.
She started talking about suicide. She wanted to take her medications all at once and just go to sleep. My sister and I convinced her to sign herself into the hospital. She fought us tooth and nail but we finally got her to do it. She then signs herself right out!!! She only spent 2 nights there. No medication change, no nothing. All they did was add Klonopine to her list of medications. Only makes her worse. All she does now is sleep all day. She is a complete mess again. She was doing so well before her boyfriend came home. She was on top of the world. Feeling great, doing great. Upbeat and positive. Since he has been home she has made a total turn around for the worse!!! I want her to go back into the hospital but here is what she is telling me: She can't because CPS told her that if she did they would take her daughter away. They also told her if she stops her medications they will take her away. Okay, I can believe that if she stops taking her medications they will take her daughter away but I find it very hard to believe that if she seeks treatment she needs, like putting herself into the hospital that they will take her daughter???? If she has a stable responsible person to take care of her daughter then why on earth would they want to take her daughter away for getting help. I think she is lying about that because she doesn't want to go into the hospital. What do you think? I just don't think that makes sense. Would'nt CPS want her to get help so that she can be a better mother???
I think she has a lot on her plate and just can't handle it. It is very frustrating to my sister and I because we know that the boyfriend is a huge trigger for her. He is a bum. In and out of prison, cheats on her and lives off of her. I know that she would be better off without him. She was doing so well before he came home. Now she is a mess. Too concerned with what he is doing. The second day he was home she had drama with the ex girlfriend. Childish phone stuff, ya know? She so needs to dump this guy. She has no self esteem so she just puts up with it to be loved. Of course we all know that what he is giving her is not love!!! And I know that I cannot make her leave him. But how on earth do I help her now? She won't go back into the hospital. She takes her medications and sleeps all day. The doctor told her to take the Klonopines as a prn but she takes them 3 times a day. I, of course told her not to as that is why she is sleeping all day. She does not need to take them, she wants to. She has an appointment with the psychiatrist tomorrow that I am trying to convince her to let me come to. I would love to talk with him. I don't think she really wants me to. I am afraid for her. I do not want that dreaded phone call that she really did kill herself!!!!
What can I do to help her? Any advice would be much appreciated.
Shawna