I wrote last month about my son who was hospitalized. We are now trying, on our own, to get services. I keep reading about agencies, and "wrap-around" things, and such, but I can't quite seem to get connected. So far we have: called pediatrician to get referral to neurologist for brain stuff. Hospital psychiatrist said he needed scans to look for organic problems (still waiting for peds to call back -- trying to get consult with peds doctor without child present takes longer) started neuropsychologist and educational psychiatric testing on our own, which will finish up this Saturday. We are paying almost 2 grand for this, even after our insurance kicks in its meager amount! Is this normal?!? We should have diagnosis/disgnoses after this Saturday. It will be a total of about 12 hours of testing. called several behavior health agencies and left a million messages fired one psychiatrist and are waiting for end of November for our new one. After bad reactions to two different types of medications, we are medication free. Hallucinations are gone, but he is angry. I am trying to find someone in our area who has more of a bundled service.....I really think we need a social worker or someone who knows how to deal with this stuff and can help us coordinate. Any recommendations. One Mental Health agency that works with teens says they can start working with us once we have some sort of diagnosis, if they take our insurance. Is it normal for everything to take forever and be prohibitively expensive? I called Agency A and they told me to call Agency B. When I called Agency B, they told me Agency A would be the one who could help us. I called ARC and they told me they don't touch mental illness, so I called NAMI in our area and they told me they have nothing for teens because their families are "too embarrassed" and no one shows up to support groups. I called for medication-Waiver -- they told us ten year waiting list. I called Big Brothers/Big Sisters and someone's recommendation, and they have no budget and have everything on hold. Not even a waiting list. I called a very active, large, monied organization developed by our HUGE church that has therapy, residential living, and they even refused us. No one wants to touch animal killing and public masturbation. (I can't imagine why!) I feel like we can't connect to anyone, even though I spent -- not joking -- five hours on the phone on Monday. Meanwhile, I got my oldest daughter an appointment with her own therapist this week, as she says she is about to crack with pressures from her brother and school. And, my son has gone from wanting to stab himself to being afraid to sleep because someone else is going to break into our home and stab him. He also dropped the F bomb on his teacher yesterday, and told several lies about the whole incident to his school counselor and to me. All this between being excited for trick-or-treating and going to a peer's bat mitzvah (unsupervised) this weekend. I am not comfortable with him being on his own for these activities. I don't know how to parent this kind of stuff, as it is new to me. Anyway, we need to get connected to services, and I can't seem to. Little frustrated here.