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cmfout
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I haven't been here in ages. Honestly, I haven't needed support. Things are going great with my difficult child. He's cleaned up his act, he's being respectful, doing well with homeschooling, and even going to anger management classes. During all of his improvements, I've learned to talk to him, and get my point across to him, without setting him off. We've learned to live together, talk to each other, and work on problems as a team.
My problem now is his grandfather and uncle. We have a unique problem - while we don't live WITH my father and brother, we live in a building that they own. As a single parent with a troubled kid, I simply can't afford other housing in safe areas of our county and I won't move my son into an area with gang and drug activity. I'm sure it's here too, but it's not out in the open.
Anyway - the problem. difficult child has court tomorrow for something he did over 5 months ago. They're just now getting around to filing charges - after telling me that they wouldn't be filing any. My brother and father decided that even though difficult child has really cleaned up his act, he should be very scared going into the courtroom tomorrow. They started yelling at him, telling him to shut up, swearing at him, and "trapped" him by blocking the only path out of the room they were in. difficult child told my father to move so he could go calm down. Dad said no and threatened to make it physical - telling difficult child "you might get past me because I'm old but you won't get past your uncle". difficult child had done NOTHING to threaten them, simply told them to move. At this point he told them "try it", pushed past them, and walked out. I watched and heard the entire exchange.
I defended my son. He was in the right this time. He had been listening to their advice about talking to the judge, but didn't want to hear "you're going to be locked up" and "they won't care how much you say you've changed". In my opinion, he had a right to separate himself from it and to stop the yelling. When I told them to leave him alone, they both verbally attacked me. I told them to leave and stay out of our home and lives until they can show us both some respect.
I know they won't honor that request. They're both stubborn and think they're always right, no matter what. My question is, what would you folks do in this situation? I do NOT want them pushing difficult child back onto the path he was on before!
My problem now is his grandfather and uncle. We have a unique problem - while we don't live WITH my father and brother, we live in a building that they own. As a single parent with a troubled kid, I simply can't afford other housing in safe areas of our county and I won't move my son into an area with gang and drug activity. I'm sure it's here too, but it's not out in the open.
Anyway - the problem. difficult child has court tomorrow for something he did over 5 months ago. They're just now getting around to filing charges - after telling me that they wouldn't be filing any. My brother and father decided that even though difficult child has really cleaned up his act, he should be very scared going into the courtroom tomorrow. They started yelling at him, telling him to shut up, swearing at him, and "trapped" him by blocking the only path out of the room they were in. difficult child told my father to move so he could go calm down. Dad said no and threatened to make it physical - telling difficult child "you might get past me because I'm old but you won't get past your uncle". difficult child had done NOTHING to threaten them, simply told them to move. At this point he told them "try it", pushed past them, and walked out. I watched and heard the entire exchange.
I defended my son. He was in the right this time. He had been listening to their advice about talking to the judge, but didn't want to hear "you're going to be locked up" and "they won't care how much you say you've changed". In my opinion, he had a right to separate himself from it and to stop the yelling. When I told them to leave him alone, they both verbally attacked me. I told them to leave and stay out of our home and lives until they can show us both some respect.
I know they won't honor that request. They're both stubborn and think they're always right, no matter what. My question is, what would you folks do in this situation? I do NOT want them pushing difficult child back onto the path he was on before!