My oldest daughter, Calie (not her real name) is 20. She will be 21 in January. In the last 5 months she has taken mail from someones mailbox (suposedly they are still "holding" the case--but no warrant has been issued.). She burgularized 2 houses (I turned her in for this--the victims decided NOT to file charges. It was dropped). SHe lives with a drug dealer--advised the Police--nothing hapenned. She has been pulled over SEVERAL times. She has no insurance, broken headlight, no registration, no mirrors on her car. She has recieved 4 tickets. An open container ticket. A broken headlight ticket. And last night, a no insurance/no registration ticket. I know she has taken "bars" A LOT (I'm told this is Xanax), SHe came to my house high on Ambien once. And I know she has taken 1/2 of an Oxycotin (which made her VERY ill) Her best friend was arrested for a DUI, shoplifting and burgulary and is still in jail. Her ex boyfriend was arrsted for burgulary and for having pot on him when Calie was pulled over one time. She called me last week, BAWLING. Telling me she wanted to change. SHe asked for a therapist. She told me that she woke up that morning in a house she didn't know...and no one was there. Her friends had left her there. Friends. HA. We were already to open our arms and our homes to her again. SHe sounded so sincere. Her Father (my ex) told her that if she would come and apologize to his wife for stealing in their home that he would get her an appointent. That he would pay for it all. Two days later she still hadn't gone to his house. She wasn't returning calls. Finally she called and told me she was so sorry that she had been so upset on the phone--she didn't know why she had been so upset. She had changed her mind. She wasn't ready to come home. Today she called to tell me that she was afraid the law was looking for her. SHe had "keyed" her ex boyfriends DAD's truck. I tried to talk to her again. She told me that she has been texting her Dad, asking for an appointment with a therapist, but that he hasn't responded. I reminded her that she was supposed to go apologize to his wife. She became very mad. She told me that she hasn't eaten in 2 days. That she has no gas. She let me know that she was being kicked out of yet ANOTHER friends house. I reminded her that she could come home is she made changes (no drugs/alcohol in our home, let us know when she will be home--no staying out all night after telling us she will be home at 11PM, no stealing here, no "riff raff" in my home). She told me that I lived too far away from her friends. I told her "then it sounds like you have made your decision. Be careful. I love you". I am so ready for her to hit bottom. I wish she would be arrested and sit in jail for awhile. I'm tired of hearing "everyone my age does these things". I miss my girl. My heart hurts so bad--I can't seem to reach her... I'm afraid I've lost her forever. I feel as if I have no hope. Can it get better?