Hi everyone. First time posting under this forum, and pretty new to CD altogether, have a difficult child with drug and substance abuse problems and have posted there, so some of you may remember me. Got phone calls, while at a birthday party with my 7 yo daughter, from both husband and difficult child that they just got into it; husband pulled difficult child out of bed because difficult child took husband's cranberry juice, so husband kicked him out! Sounds crazy, I know, but if you lived in my house, you would understand. Time and time again husband tells difficult child not to drink his beer, not to throw cigarette butts around on our property, etc. but difficult child does it anyway. husband is in a very deep depression lately. Long story short on him: Very overweight, diagnosed with depression, back and shoulder trouble, lost his family's 2 properties in N.O. during Hurricane Katrina, subsequently within a 12 month span his 43 yo sister and 68 yo mother both passed away, sister with MS and totally handicapped, otherwise healthy mother diagnosed with cancer (multiple myeloma) July 2007 and died within 8 weeks. Besides all this, trying to deal/cope with difficult child the last few years, who is currently in outpatient rehab. Things just building up for husband who has constant back pain and nothing seems to work. Currently hoping to get some type of weight loss surgery - I know this won't rid all of his problems, but should help with the back pain. He on top of that has a hot temper and lets things build up for a while before letting loose - which happened today. I ran home to get difficult child's medications, which he has to take to keep him from doing opiates - then gave him a ride to friend's house. Then I had a long talk with husband, even told him I would drive him to a psychiatric facility to get an evaluation bc I can't live like this any more. He says hes been there done that and he knows what's wrong and talking to a shrink isn't going to do him any good. Both of us in tears, just horrible. husband tells me to CHOOSE between difficult child and husband! I told him I would never do that - they both need help. difficult child is finally doing something positive and I have to do whatever I can to keep him going with that. I am just at my wits end. After several phone calls to both me and husband, difficult child returned and had a short talk with husband and they agreed, again, to work together and work this all out, but it just won't go away on its own. This is only a bandaid on a much bigger problem. I think difficult child is doing better, since he kept calling, even apologized to husband, maybe he has a conscience after all. He knows he has it good living at home, has no where else to go anyway; maybe the Suboxone he's on helps him realize this. By the way, he got a job starting tomorrow. Has had a few of these, none of which worked out, but hopefully this one will. difficult child is no way doing great, but soooo much better, even takes a shower and changes his clothes daily so, like I said, he is moving in a positive direction! A friend told me to put it all in God's hands . . . I'm trying, but I can't just sit back and do nothing. Thanks for listening.