difficult child called. I told him I had told counselor that he was pushing me to let him see H (his user friend) who was living with a murderer. difficult child's response was, "You are messing up everything for me here." Sounds like he is trying to fool the counselors. Told him I would not pay for him to get his license and allow him to use my car if he was going to see people he used with. He threw a fit. Said this friend, H, would die in the streets and I wouldn't care. That H's mother had already said that she wouldn't buy him a casket if he died. So, now it is MY fault H dies if difficult child doesn't go see him for 5 minutes? Told him he was being disrespectful - to stop or I would hang up. My mistake was saying that twice more before I did hang up. difficult child may be sober but he's still acting the same. I know it has only been three weeks but I am fearful of putting a car in his hands. Talked to my Al-anon sponsor. Going to take her advice and try to insist that difficult child not be discharged until they find a placement in a sober house. Going to call them Monday morning and ask they contact sober houses there so I can go see them prior to leaving town that afternoon.