toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi Everyone,
I wanted to give a little update. First of all I am behind as we just got back from a three week trip to Australia! Had a great time... took my easy child with us and had a good time with her and there ere no major crisis with my difficult child!
And my difficult child is doing ok! Really ok. He got a job and has been working for a month and he eally likes it. It is doing construction type work - he got it through a roommate. So it is hands on and he is learning a lot and it sounds like a good fit for him. He is still with the new girlfriend and is looking to get some therapy for himself. We have agreed we will pay for therapy but this is his idea and he is looking for a good therapist.
I am sure from posts on FB that he is drinking and probably smoking pot. I am just keeping my mouth shut about it and remind myself this is not my journey. We are helping him out some financially....as he gets on his feet. I am feeling ok about that. He is doing a lot of the right things and I dont want him to end up homeless while he seems to be trying to get his act together. But he is not asking for unreasonable things and really it is what we would do for a kid his age trying to become independent.
And although sometimes looking at FB makes me see things that makes my heart sink...... I am also seeing posts that make my heart soar. While we were gone he posted some things he was grateful... including one where he was thankful for his family who are supportive of him!!! That was big.
He wants us to come and visit which is also a good sign. And we have had some conversations where he has opened up a little.... which is all good. So I feel our relationship is in a better place than it has been in a long time.
I do worry about his substance use but really at this point I am seeing that as his issue which he has to deal with or not..... if he doesnt it will get in his way but I cant do anything about it at this point. It is huge that he is working and is close to completely supporting himself.
TL
I wanted to give a little update. First of all I am behind as we just got back from a three week trip to Australia! Had a great time... took my easy child with us and had a good time with her and there ere no major crisis with my difficult child!
And my difficult child is doing ok! Really ok. He got a job and has been working for a month and he eally likes it. It is doing construction type work - he got it through a roommate. So it is hands on and he is learning a lot and it sounds like a good fit for him. He is still with the new girlfriend and is looking to get some therapy for himself. We have agreed we will pay for therapy but this is his idea and he is looking for a good therapist.
I am sure from posts on FB that he is drinking and probably smoking pot. I am just keeping my mouth shut about it and remind myself this is not my journey. We are helping him out some financially....as he gets on his feet. I am feeling ok about that. He is doing a lot of the right things and I dont want him to end up homeless while he seems to be trying to get his act together. But he is not asking for unreasonable things and really it is what we would do for a kid his age trying to become independent.
And although sometimes looking at FB makes me see things that makes my heart sink...... I am also seeing posts that make my heart soar. While we were gone he posted some things he was grateful... including one where he was thankful for his family who are supportive of him!!! That was big.
He wants us to come and visit which is also a good sign. And we have had some conversations where he has opened up a little.... which is all good. So I feel our relationship is in a better place than it has been in a long time.
I do worry about his substance use but really at this point I am seeing that as his issue which he has to deal with or not..... if he doesnt it will get in his way but I cant do anything about it at this point. It is huge that he is working and is close to completely supporting himself.
TL