I have a happy post! My son is in Delray Beach, Florida and I know that it was divine intervention that I found this forum and found the place he is at literally on the internet. After five years of on and off mayhem, my prayers have been answered. My husband drove him there this week and when they got there everyone introduced themselves and were very friendly. My husband said that you'd never know any of the young men there had any issues. Kyle, my contact there, is very friendly and helpful. It's in a beautiful area and the place is very clean. My husband was impressed. My son went to the gym yesterday they are able to go to and he said it is "really nice". His new roommate said he can get him a job at the restaurant he works in as a busboy. He also asked another guy about a job at a new grocery store that is right across the street from them. Everything is walking distance including the beach. Last night my son said he really likes it (and he is very hard to please). He wants to get into college this fall because he wants to "go to college and have a family". I am so happy he has these goals. He feels he is behind and needs to get on track (both true). I told him we'll take one day at a time and see how it goes. We'll see him when we go to Florida the end of April. That will be a good gauge to see how he is doing. Of course I'm still not able to shut down my negative mind so I can just enjoy this peace. This all happened so fast and we worked so hard to make this happen. I just hope that it continues and he is able to mature while he is there and see that life can be really good and you really can be comfortable in your own skin. I want to thank the folks on this forum that literally gave me the strength I/we needed to tell our son NO MORE. I think it would have been easier to hope it would all just "go away" in some ways and continue to deal with our crazy life. It had become our new normal but we hated it. He has a long way to go but I think we're on the right track. Thank you all for your support!