AllStressedOut
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For the past 2 yrs I was PTA Pres. at my sons old Elem. School. As most of you know, we transferred because of the new principal. Well, the girl that took over as PTA Pres. has never volunteered before. Since taking over she has asked me questions via email and so on, I've tried to help, even though my kids don't go there anymore. Since summer I have been asking her to meet me and the old VP (who also transferred) at Sams Club so we can change the PTA account over. She emailed me earlier this week and here are the emails:
HER:Hi there Do we have to vote on when our general pta meetings are? Also, have you had a chance to meet with (name here) (I think that is her name?) to find out when we can do the sams card? Thanks for your help
ME:You have to vote in a board meeting about your entire calendar. Board meetings, general meetings, book fairs, fundraisers etc.
I did ask her again, but the night she thought she was free was camp meeting night for our 5th graders. I'll ask again, thanks for the reminder.
HER:Thanks for the help! Just let me know I appreciate it
ME:She said Saturday afternoon around 2ish.
HER:That works for me let me make sure (other name here) can be there as well. Thanks
Okay, so this was the last communication between the two of us before today. Then at 2, I start receiving calls from her and from the lady who she had with her. I was about 1 hour away from the town we live in. I called her back and the other lady answered her phone. This lady is POed at me because I'm not there, she is on her lunch break. I hear the PTA Pres. in the background saying "She sent me an email and said 2." Well, I knew I wasn't specific because my old VP wasn't specific with me, so I couldn't be. So when I got home, I forwarded all 3 women the emails above and wrote this and got these replies:
ME:The last communication between PTA Pres. and I is shown below. Nothing had been set in stone and this is why neither of us were there. Thanks (name here) for meeting them so quickly, I really appreciate it.
HER:Ok so it says 2ish, that still does not explain why you did not even bother to contact me to inform me that you were not going to show, that was very inconsiderate on your part. Yes I appreciate (name here) for showing up and taking care of this, but not showing up is what I had a problem with.
ME:I said "around 2ish" and you said "let me make sure (other name here) can be there as well". This does not set a specific time to meet and you never got back with me to let me know (other name here) could make it.
I would appreciate it if you would refrain from speaking to me in the manner below. I did not show because you did not follow up with me. If I had been here and could have come at the last minute, I would have, but I wasn't. This doesn't make me inconsiderate.
This woman has kind of been on a power trip since she started. There is another long time volunteer who doesn't even have kids at the school anymore and she has nudged this woman out of her position responsibilities on the PTA. This woman was really upset too. What I find so rediculous is that being a PTA President doesn't make you this "all powerful being"....it just means you were likely the only person who volunteered for the job. Prior to this problem, there was a form she was to fill out and mail in. I emailed her twice in a two month period and attached the form and let her know the deadline for it to be received. No one at the old school would give me the info needed to fill the form out, so I couldn't do it for her. Later, when they emailed saying they hadn't received it, she blamed me. WTH!
I'm sure this woman is going to have more questions as the year progresses, but after today's BS I don't want to deal with her. Then I think, thats wrong of me to not reply to her and help her, but why should I work with someone who is so nasty and so underhanded?
HER:Hi there Do we have to vote on when our general pta meetings are? Also, have you had a chance to meet with (name here) (I think that is her name?) to find out when we can do the sams card? Thanks for your help
ME:You have to vote in a board meeting about your entire calendar. Board meetings, general meetings, book fairs, fundraisers etc.
I did ask her again, but the night she thought she was free was camp meeting night for our 5th graders. I'll ask again, thanks for the reminder.
HER:Thanks for the help! Just let me know I appreciate it
ME:She said Saturday afternoon around 2ish.
HER:That works for me let me make sure (other name here) can be there as well. Thanks
Okay, so this was the last communication between the two of us before today. Then at 2, I start receiving calls from her and from the lady who she had with her. I was about 1 hour away from the town we live in. I called her back and the other lady answered her phone. This lady is POed at me because I'm not there, she is on her lunch break. I hear the PTA Pres. in the background saying "She sent me an email and said 2." Well, I knew I wasn't specific because my old VP wasn't specific with me, so I couldn't be. So when I got home, I forwarded all 3 women the emails above and wrote this and got these replies:
ME:The last communication between PTA Pres. and I is shown below. Nothing had been set in stone and this is why neither of us were there. Thanks (name here) for meeting them so quickly, I really appreciate it.
HER:Ok so it says 2ish, that still does not explain why you did not even bother to contact me to inform me that you were not going to show, that was very inconsiderate on your part. Yes I appreciate (name here) for showing up and taking care of this, but not showing up is what I had a problem with.
ME:I said "around 2ish" and you said "let me make sure (other name here) can be there as well". This does not set a specific time to meet and you never got back with me to let me know (other name here) could make it.
I would appreciate it if you would refrain from speaking to me in the manner below. I did not show because you did not follow up with me. If I had been here and could have come at the last minute, I would have, but I wasn't. This doesn't make me inconsiderate.
This woman has kind of been on a power trip since she started. There is another long time volunteer who doesn't even have kids at the school anymore and she has nudged this woman out of her position responsibilities on the PTA. This woman was really upset too. What I find so rediculous is that being a PTA President doesn't make you this "all powerful being"....it just means you were likely the only person who volunteered for the job. Prior to this problem, there was a form she was to fill out and mail in. I emailed her twice in a two month period and attached the form and let her know the deadline for it to be received. No one at the old school would give me the info needed to fill the form out, so I couldn't do it for her. Later, when they emailed saying they hadn't received it, she blamed me. WTH!
I'm sure this woman is going to have more questions as the year progresses, but after today's BS I don't want to deal with her. Then I think, thats wrong of me to not reply to her and help her, but why should I work with someone who is so nasty and so underhanded?