As the title reads, I just threw out my 21 year old addict son. He has been looking for a job for the past 4 months. Amazingly, he cannot find one despite everyone hiring around us. Each day i was not sure which son i was coming home to find. the good one or the nasty belligerent one who would go off on tirades at me. As i found out, he can make more money selling drugs. A few months ago, I started to notice things missing. Little things like all the change i had in a bowl in my dresser, his younger siblings piggy banks emptied. There was always denial on his part and I so wanted to believe him that I overlooked it. Then came home the other day to the overpowering smell of weed in my home. I don't even allow people to smoke in my house. When asked, he denies everything. Has no idea where that smell is coming from. Then I noticed my Xbox One and controllers are missing. But he knows nothing about them and told me the problem is mine if I can't find stuff. The Xbox was in the living room below the TV, so kind of hard to misplace. I tried to point out the logic that if he was home alone all day, where did the Xbox go? He just kept repeating that he had no idea and i should "stop f**king bugging him because he is getting pissed, so if I was smart I would stop right now". That day i had enough and ordered him out of the house under police escort. He was furious and went off into a tirade about me. The police were great and told him to leave now or go in cuffs. His choice. He also tried to explain that "this is your father, and you have no right to talk to him like that". Fell on deaf ear. After I ordered him out, I found out from your neighbors that there was a party at my house that day while I wasn't home. The freezer was half empty, snacks and drinks all cleaned out. When i checked the trash can, there was a kitchen garbage bag full of cigar packets, empty bags from weed, tobacco pieces and straws. Remember he was home alone all day. He could actually stand there and tell me all this with a straight face. Just lie after lie. I found out even more when I cleaned his room. Empty blunt packages, empty bags from weed, a bowl. All stashed in different places around the room. He is now texting me about how he needs money and I have a responsibility as a parent to give it to him. Because this is all my fault. He is an addict and needs help which he denies of course. It is so hard for me right now. I just want to cry but i know what I did is best for him, my other children and me.