I feel so lost and confused that I don't know what to do. Here's my story: My daughter (9yrs) was diagnosed last year with ADHD and Disruptive Behavior Disorder. On top of that she has a cross-fused ectopic right kidney (essentially she is the same as a child with only one kidney), very little control of her bladder muscles and has been in puberty since 5 yrs old. At the time when she was diagnosed last year we were living in upstate NY and the only treatment offered to her was to be addmitted to a facility in downstate NY for a 60 day evaluation. I could not send my baby away for 60 days somewhere where she didn't know anyone and I couldn't see her. Two years ago I was hospitalized for medical issues for 3 weeks and that was very difficult for her and I as she has never been away from me. We have recently moved to central Florida and she is having mega problems in school. I think her old school just kinda overlooked her problems and let her slide and now her new school is much different. According to her old school her grades were fine she passed every grade and was on grade level in all subjects. Now however her new school seems to feel that she is behind a grade in most of her subjects. She has outbursts in school and at home if you try to help her with things she says she doesn't know how to do. When she is happy she is out of control happy and when she is upset she is out of control upset. There just is no happy medium. She doesn't seem to remember from one day to the next what she has been reprimanded for. People love to tell me that she is just spoiled and I don't deny spoiling her but I don't believe she has been spoiled any more than her brother (18yrs) or her sister (16yrs) and they have none of these problems. She also has a brother and sister on her biological faters side who both hav many of the same problems. Her brother on her fathers side is almost 17 and has already been on PINS and in juvenile jail several times. Her sister on her fathers side is almost 14 and has tried to kill her grandmother and attempted to set several fires and has thought she was pregnant by grown men many times. I don't want my daughter to follow in their footsteps but I don't know how to help her.