PlainJane
Every dog has his day....
My son is in the public preschool program, which is only for children that have been "classified". After months of testing and red tape he started in Dec. I requested a meeting in March. In a nut shell difficult child has many behavoiral issues at home. diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) was given at 2, then again at 3, but the doctor felt that this wasnt the real issue. She thinks it may be more of a Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), ODD or anxiety, but she just wanted to give some diagnosis to cover services and she said as he get older we'll have a better idea of what's going on.
difficult child very often seems to be angry and defiant. most of his conversational skills are rooted in opposition. (He does recieve weekly social skills groups to help with conversational skills) Like today I tried talking to him about soccer. I told him it starts in 3 weeks. and without missing beat, he stated "so soccer starts in 2 days?". If the TV says something like "all new episode of Dora" he'll say to the TV "an all OLD episode" This happens maybe 50 -100 times a day. Its a regular part of his way of talking.
But also he seems so angry. Even on "play dates" which get fewer and fewer, he's pointing out all the negetive things, and yelling at the other child. He's very controlling and sadly, manipulative. Even a simple walk to the park leaves him complaining and shouting about how he hate this and that. I would say he is not happy very often. Even if we are somewhere "fun" he's yelling at and getting angry at other kids or inanimate objects. In a group setting his miserable attitude is quite the attention drawer, as he is also loud. (He's always loud, even when he's happy.) Soccer we are going to try again this season, and he is actually really good at it. Honestly (and oddly since husband and I are not athletic) he was one of the best players, BUT his attitude took away from his playing. He would run up the field verbally assulting the person with the ball. Shaking his fists and screaming if he didn't get the ball. husband and I spent more time trying to handle his behavoir that watchin the game. ANd the funny thing is he loves it! He wants to do it again! He doesn't seem to get how his attitude repells everyone.
I talk to his teach very briefly on the phone a few weeks ago about an upcoming event, and I took the few minutes (she was obvious about being rushed) to ask about how he is in class....and she says he's pleasant anda happy...huh?!?! Is this my child you are talking about?!
I asked to set up a meeting with her and his case manager and all the other people that sit in with these meetings, because now I'm wondering why my son is just so wonderful at school. I mean, even in his social skills class they see he's the way I described him.
I am not looking to point out his flaws to them. I feel like if he's so wonderful at school, maybe I can find to reason he's so not nice everywhere else and I can help him.
Any advice??
(please excuse typos, I'm not proof reading today. lol
difficult child very often seems to be angry and defiant. most of his conversational skills are rooted in opposition. (He does recieve weekly social skills groups to help with conversational skills) Like today I tried talking to him about soccer. I told him it starts in 3 weeks. and without missing beat, he stated "so soccer starts in 2 days?". If the TV says something like "all new episode of Dora" he'll say to the TV "an all OLD episode" This happens maybe 50 -100 times a day. Its a regular part of his way of talking.
But also he seems so angry. Even on "play dates" which get fewer and fewer, he's pointing out all the negetive things, and yelling at the other child. He's very controlling and sadly, manipulative. Even a simple walk to the park leaves him complaining and shouting about how he hate this and that. I would say he is not happy very often. Even if we are somewhere "fun" he's yelling at and getting angry at other kids or inanimate objects. In a group setting his miserable attitude is quite the attention drawer, as he is also loud. (He's always loud, even when he's happy.) Soccer we are going to try again this season, and he is actually really good at it. Honestly (and oddly since husband and I are not athletic) he was one of the best players, BUT his attitude took away from his playing. He would run up the field verbally assulting the person with the ball. Shaking his fists and screaming if he didn't get the ball. husband and I spent more time trying to handle his behavoir that watchin the game. ANd the funny thing is he loves it! He wants to do it again! He doesn't seem to get how his attitude repells everyone.
I talk to his teach very briefly on the phone a few weeks ago about an upcoming event, and I took the few minutes (she was obvious about being rushed) to ask about how he is in class....and she says he's pleasant anda happy...huh?!?! Is this my child you are talking about?!
I asked to set up a meeting with her and his case manager and all the other people that sit in with these meetings, because now I'm wondering why my son is just so wonderful at school. I mean, even in his social skills class they see he's the way I described him.
I am not looking to point out his flaws to them. I feel like if he's so wonderful at school, maybe I can find to reason he's so not nice everywhere else and I can help him.
Any advice??
(please excuse typos, I'm not proof reading today. lol