Good morning! I hope I can get a lot accomplished today! I'm going to call the Department of Juvenile Justice infirmary and see why difficult child isn't on allergy mmeds yet- he put in 2 requests and I called last week to ask them not to give him zyrtec because it triggers mania- or something. Yesterday, I learned that they are giving him tegretol and apparantly, the psychiatrist there did not add this in intentionally. difficult child's psychiatrist at the psychiatric hospital (in Feb and Mar) had switched difficult child from lithobid and tegretol to lithobid and seroquel. Department of Juvenile Justice has been giving him all three.
Mom23: I'm concerned about difficult child coming home for several reasons- I don't think it's in his or my best interest. I know a lot can change, but we are getting more distant from each other and that will only get worse as time passes. I honestly think he would come home and be even less funstional and I would be even more afraid of what he'll do. Then there's the issue of the "well-intentioned" people in the system to contend with who handle things in a way that makes things worse instead of better.. It seems like even a more obvious set up for failure than before. Again, a lot can change, and if they give us family therapy in a way that's reasonable enough for me to attend while he's in there and the requirements for him to come home aren't more than I can do and seem worth giving a shot and I think he and I have enough of a relationship left to try, I might still try. But, I really think the odds are against it and I don't want difficult child having his hopes built up or the Department of Juvenile Justice/parole people being caught off guard at the 11th hour about this. I've ticked off our people in the county which made them defend themselves by trashing me and that has spread to the parole officer because he works with them. This whole mess has kept them focused on the tension between us and them CYA'ing themselves instead of focusing on what's really in difficult child's best interest. There's a complete lack of trust- mutually- between us. Plus, they can't even get on-board with what they are ordering and what each other is pushing for. It creates havoc for me and difficult child. I'm going to try to move so maybe I'll have more motivation to give it a chance. I want out of this county in a bad way. on the other hand, if I move now, I may never own another home so it's difficult to take those steps.