I'll preface this by saying I was a total difficult child well into my adulthood (and after I had easy child). She had a rough childhood between a divorce and my substance abuse (in recovery almost 10 years now). She handled everything with maturity and grace. She was a total easy child. Last year (her senior year of hs) she started dating her boyfriend, who seems to be a nice kid, but things started going south. Her grades went from honor roll to barely graduating hs. She insisted on moving in with boyfriend and they moved 3 hours away. Now she is disrespectful, rude, condescending and just a total PITA. She won't answer her phone (which we pay for) when I call her but has no problem texting me at 3 am asking when I'm doing my taxes because she needs the information for her financial aid forms. I must have told her at least 10 times that I won't have my w-2 until the end of January. I only work very part-time because I'm on disability. She has texted me twice in the middle of the night asking. She spent all of her college money in three weeks time on stuff other than college. I wanted to handle that particular account but the money was saved for her by my Dad and he wanted her to take control. She's been fired from two jobs and just started job 3. I'm sure it's because of her attitude. She actually refused to thank my Dad for saving money for her. She constantly reminds me that I ruined her childhood. I even put some money in her checking account (I'm still on the account) recently and she acted like I owed it to her anyway. My therapist thinks its just a phase and that she'll start talking to me again and being more respectful. She has changed 180 degrees since dating boyfriend. I don't know. I don't want to talk to her when she is being rude but I definitely am afraid that she'll cut off all contact. My mother (who is a complete difficult child) hasn't talked to me in 17 years because I "embarrassed" her with my behavior as a teen. I think daughter knows I have that fear and she is using it to try and control what I do.