I have been away for a while but am back now and feel like packing a bag and running away from my kids. About a month ago, we found out by going through easy child's phone that she had been telling people she may be pregnant AND if that were not bad enough, she was also telling them that she was afraid to tell us because we abuse her and she felt like we would literally kill her and the baby. My kids haven't gotten a spanking since they were toddlers and it was only if they did something that risked their safety (like running in the street). She did confirm that she had sex and did think she was preg. So we bought several tests and they were negative. thank god for that....then dealing with the lies about abuse. I made her text message all of her friends and tell them that those were lies and that because of that her b. day party was cancelled and she is grounded. We ended up celebrating her b. day just family and took her out to eat. Whereas it was supposed to be me taking all her friends to the movies and dinner. On top of all that, this 17 yr old boy had been sending her full frontal nude pictures of himself on her phone. This happened a few weeks before the pregnancy thing and abuse. My husband talked to this kids mother and told her that this was a warning, he is to stay away from her and not have any contact and if he does we will go to the police. Well, what my smart little easy child did was change his name on her phone so i wouldn't know it was him she was talking to. But somehow I found out it was him she was talking to every day again, right up until the preg. and abuse things came about. I have NOOOOOOO trust for her. This happened about a month ago and at every single turn, she does something that is a lie or sneaking behind my back, talking on the phone when i am not home (the house phone). We are in counseling, but i had to drag her to go. The counselor just says it will take time to heal and to trust again, but easy child seems to have no interest in healing our relationship. She loves to shock and awe. Loves to beg for tattoos, piercings, things that we are really against...anything to get us stirred up. Fast forward to this morning...I wake up to screaming, like someone is stabbing her screaming. I come flying down the stairs and she is still screaming. I said WHAT is it????? She said that difficult child hit her in the back with a tennis ball several times. Then I look at him and he has bright red rings around his neck. He said she was choking him. Over what??? The computer. The blanking computer. I said ya know what? Go to your rooms until i tell you to come out. And the next time you assult each other like this, I will call the police. You don't go around choking someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or slamming a ball into their back. I told them no more computer this whole week unless it is a school assignment that i give them. Thanks for listening. I just had to get this out. I feel like I just can't deal some days.