Hello all! I just stumbled across this site last night looking for help with my oldest daughter. I will call her "Hayley". We don't have a diagnosis. Seems everyone is willing to tell me what she isn't, but not what she is. It's driving me insane. I have been dealing though, but this past weekend has given me a kick in the butt. Last Wednesday Hayley went to stay with her Grandma. This would be my mother in law. mother in law and I have always agreed something wasn't right. Ever since she was a baby she has been different. Well this weekend mother in law got the full dose that is "Hayley". Now she is sure we can't just let this go anymore. Hayley can't just do as she is told, she is always pushing. Now she doesn't do this with everyone. It used to be only me, but now it's grandma and me. I used to think it was just something to do with me. I wasn't sure what, but I couldn't understand why she would be that way with only one person. You tell her to stop, or if she knows it's a rule, she will break it and then occasionally she will point it out to you that she is doing it. Example. Grandma has never let her get on the counters. But this weekend she hopped up there and said, "Look Grandma, I am up here." She is 6 and I swear I can't trust her around anything. She climbs, jumps, etc. She has even jumped off the top bunk of our bunk beds! She is terrible to animals, and has to be supervised around them. I remember this spring seeing her grab a cat by it back legs and fling it into the air... She cannot sleep. We have to give her Melatonin just to get her to somewhat sleep. Our other kids don't want anything to do with her. She breaks toys constantly, pulls stickers off, you name it. She also refuses to try in school. She is in first grade, and it's a battle to get her to do her work. She will swear she can't count backwards, no matter how many times you work with her. Well my mother in law says she thinks I deserve a nedal for doing this day in and day out. She knows husband doesn't help and she swears she can't imagine doing all of this. She had her from Wednesday night (no school thursday and friday) and normally wouldn't have sent her home until Sunday, but she said she couldn't do it any more. I think she may have ODD or CD but I don't understand much about the two. Thanks for listening to me, I am sure I will be here often, it seems as though I will find a shoulder to cry on here.