I've been lurking on the forum for a week or so now, reading and learning. I thought it was time to introduce myself; the forum has already proved to be a huge help in our ongoing struggle to find effective treatment for our difficult child. I'm a divorced and re-married (not officially yet, lol) single dad. The son I am here about is currently 8 years old, and is/has been exhibiting a variety of behaviors which cause significant concern to his teachers and parents - by parents, I mean myself, his step-mom (my SO), his bio-mom, and bio-mom's boyfriend. Our family is difficult child and his bio-sister, plus two step sisters at my house and two step-sibs (one of each gender) at his mom's, all within a few years of the same age (14 years to 7 years old, I think.) Problem behaviors include: not listening to teachers, not completing class or homework, non-compliance with various requests, violent emotional and physical outbursts in social situations with his peers (including hitting, kicking, throwing things, choking, biting - even throwing things at techers, rarely), running and hiding from teachers (thankfully he's stayed in the school building so far), lying... I could go on. All of this has resulted, so far, in being kicked out of the school's after-school care program, lots and lots of teacher concern, counselling and a tentative diagnosis of ODD, a recent write-up for sexual misconduct with the school district, and child abuse cases against both step-parents. We're currently getting a formal evaluation from a psychologist with the goal of getting a 504 plan in place so that if he does something that results in another write-up he has a chance of not being expelled from school. We have another difficult child, my SO's daughter, with a formal diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)/Anorexia Nervosa, so we're familiar with that. Personally, I'm not worried about exactly WHAT we're calling difficult child's behavior - I am much more concerned with finding effective ways to help him cope with his demons, so that he can continue leading what we laughingly call a "normal" life - but I understand that a formal diagnosis is helpful for the school system, etc. We've recently picked up a copy of The Explosive Child (thank you recommended reading list), which I have to say fits difficult child to a T, and are beginning to socilize the concepts recommended therein to difficult child's team. Does anyone have any other resources or ideas that we may not have considered? I should add, we live in a small city, not a major urban area, which makes quilified people harder to find that I like. Thanks in advance!