I would venture to guess that to some degree, many of us on this board have whatever the name of this specific parental issue is. For me, after so many years of so much "caregiver burnout" the physiological outcome was 'adrenal fatigue' which is what happens to the body after it stays in the fight or flight syndrome consistently, which is what many of us cope with here.
Here are some symptoms of adrenal fatigue:
The 30 symptoms include, but are not limited to:
1. Excessive fatigue and exhaustion, chronic fatigue
2. Non-refreshing sleep
3. Sleep disturbance, insomnia
4. Feeling overwhelmed or unable to cope
5. Craving salty and/or sweet foods
6. Sensitivity to light
7. Low stamina and slow to recover from exercise
8. Slow to recover from injury or illness
9. Difficulty concentrating, brain fog
10. Poor digestion
11. Irritable bowel syndrome, IBS
12. Low immune function
13. Premenstrual syndrome
14. Menopause symptoms
15. Low blood pressure
16. Sensitivity to cold
17. Fearfulness
18. Allergies,
19. Frequent influenza
20. Arthritis
21. Anxiety
22. Irritability
23. Depression
24. Reduced memory
25. Low libido, sexual drive or interest
26. Lack of lust for life and/or food
27. Excess hunger
28. Low appetite
29. Panic/anxiety attacks
30. Irritability, impatience, quick to anger.
If quick to anger, the person will often tend to back down quickly if confronted.
My response to this was to change my diet,stay off of sugar, wheat, alcohol, dairy and processed food, increase exercise, sleep more, get into therapy again, learn about codependency issues pertaining to me, get as much support as possible, go to an acupuncturist on a regular basis for stress relief and anything else I could find to relieve that stress and change the pattern within me. The external issues may remain the same, however, my response to them shifted and I felt better. Best advice I can offer is do everything you can to support yourself, find places of comfort and relief, look for joy and laughter wherever you can find it, talk to a therapist or anyone who you feel comfortable with to release your frustrations and angers, exercise, eat well and take very, very good care of yourself on all levels. Hugs and best wishes for you to find peace and health in the midst of the stormy sea you find yourself in.