NervousNelly
New Member
Some of you may or may not recall my 1st post about my 30 yo difficult child that is addicted to meth and has bipolar disorder. Many of you suggested that she may need to leave the house to get the treatment she really needs (i.e., hit bottom). Well, this weekend it happened.
She has been gone for almost two weeks, but keeping in contact daily via phone. During the time she's been gone, husband and I have discovered that 1) our credit cards were stolen while we went on vacation (we left most of them at home); 2) there is power equipment missing from our garage (to which difficult child had the only other key; 3) she stole $600 from us which I found out yesterday. The stealing of the $600 was the final straw and I told her not to come home. That she either had to go to treatment or find another place to live. She is working on her decision.
I know many of you know how I feel right now and to say I'm not thinking clearly is an understatement. My heart has been torn in half and my soul has a hole punched in it. But I need to take some action and need some suggestions/advice.
So my question has to do with finding decent treatment programs. We live in Southern California. I have heard it's best to find someplace away from where you live so they are taken out of their comfortable environment where all their dealers, "friends", etc are. Can anyone give me some guidance on how to find a program for her? Should I look out of state? Will she benefit from a local program? I will have to find someplace that either offers scholarships or no/low cost. She does not work and has no insurance and husband and I simply don't have the money. I really don't know what first step I need to take. If she decides to go to treatment, I want to be ready with some places she can look into.
Any advice/suggestions? I'm so lost right now...
She has been gone for almost two weeks, but keeping in contact daily via phone. During the time she's been gone, husband and I have discovered that 1) our credit cards were stolen while we went on vacation (we left most of them at home); 2) there is power equipment missing from our garage (to which difficult child had the only other key; 3) she stole $600 from us which I found out yesterday. The stealing of the $600 was the final straw and I told her not to come home. That she either had to go to treatment or find another place to live. She is working on her decision.
I know many of you know how I feel right now and to say I'm not thinking clearly is an understatement. My heart has been torn in half and my soul has a hole punched in it. But I need to take some action and need some suggestions/advice.
So my question has to do with finding decent treatment programs. We live in Southern California. I have heard it's best to find someplace away from where you live so they are taken out of their comfortable environment where all their dealers, "friends", etc are. Can anyone give me some guidance on how to find a program for her? Should I look out of state? Will she benefit from a local program? I will have to find someplace that either offers scholarships or no/low cost. She does not work and has no insurance and husband and I simply don't have the money. I really don't know what first step I need to take. If she decides to go to treatment, I want to be ready with some places she can look into.
Any advice/suggestions? I'm so lost right now...