First time posting. Read a lot here-Wow! After all the rehabs and sober living and courts and hospitals he got out of a 2 month program and is home now. He has just shut down. No ambition no desires. He has no car no money no good friends. As long as he is in our house he has very little freedom-for all the reasons I have read here. We will do anything for him except let him use a car or hang with old friends. He is not drinking or using. He can leave at any time and we will not stop him. He is done with sober living. He only wants certain jobs. He thinks he can do college-but we are not paying anymore. He thinks military will take him but makes no effort to clean up his past. We are done with medications and psychiatrists (he sold his mood pills and suboxone). He is alive - should we be grateful for that and keep a roof over his head and feed him? We all picture him under a bridge with a needle in his arm. where do we go from here?