Because our spoiled brat man-child of a son has gone no contact. Two weeks ago Wednesday he shows up at our house uninvited with his 20 year old girlfriend in tow. She was positively high as a kite and probably been drinking too. She was being loud and obnoxious and it was getting on my wifes nerves. My wife asked both of them again if they were using drugs, and again they both insisted that they were done with it. So a bit later my wife was trying to get them to leave by telling them that she is tired and sore from doing a lot of housework lately. So the stupid 20 year old, who not even a half hour earlier swore she wasn't using drugs, offered my wife a couple of vicodin in exchange for some cigarettes. Well my wife completely lost it. Things got nasty quick. I also stepped in and told my son that he was NOT allowed to stop by uninvited, he was NOT to take things from our house. If he wanted something he was expected to ask, and he was no longer allowed to do laundry here since he has left his clothes either in the washer or dryer nearly every time. And just like the little brat that he is, he got all hurt and offended. Then his girlfriend starts going on about how we have no idea what it's like to be addicted. So he decides to strom off like a little baby, and on the way out my wife tells him that his girlfriend is no longer welcome in our home and not to bring her around any more. Since this little episode we haven't heard from him at all, and frankly I am thrilled. It has been a quiet, drama-less time where the wife and I haven't had any fights. Hopefully she is coming around slowly to the idea of detachment. She doesn't talk much about him and she said that she was tempted to call him a few times but resisted the urge.