Sorry that I didn't come back last night. I went and shut myself away for awhile. To answer a few questions before I run:
No, I don't have a job. Not a real job that is. I work at home, online, and only when I can which isn't too often. It's an online service that answers text questions. I save what I earn, when I can, but it's not enough to get by on. Also, I do have a bank account under my name, to deposit the money I earn from the "job" I mentioned above.
I received child support for a short amount of time. However, my ex is not working. Every time I have found out where he is working, as soon as they start to take it out of his paycheck, he will quit his job. He is also ordered to provide insurance for Peanut through his employer but he quits before he's eligable. Right now, as far as I know, he is in college and not working.
My SO offers emotional support even when it can be stressful for him as well. Financial support is out of the question. He has offered and I know if I really needed him to send me money, he would but that would set him back from being able to come out here. He is staying with his family in a small town where there is only one fast food place located on the high way. That is where he works part time for minimum wage. He is lucky right now that he doesn't have bills to pay because it's helped him to save for a car that will run and for an apartment for the two of us. It's slow going but he has been saving every paycheck just to get out here. It's cheaper living out here and he will have a job lined up here. SO should get here sometime between this fall and this coming winter, if his employment situations sustains, if not, we're looking at next spring. He's saving and it is slow but we're farther than we were when he was unemployed.
In regards to whether my mom is frustrated that I am homeschooling, not moving out, and tired of us living here. Let me tell you, that is not the case. The one time my mom threatened to kick me out and I did have a place to go (this was back when I was with my son's father), she cried and begged me not to go. Her threats are to keep me in line. My mom is single and has never been in a real relationship. Her relationship with her brother is at best, strained and her parents are planning to move soon. I am the only one she has left. Like I said before, she has threatened to call the police if I take my son and leave. My mom has a real control issue. It's her way or the high way, especially in regards to my son. She goes out of her way to undermine me in front of him all the time by calling me names, going behind my back and telling him yes when I say no, or no when I say yes. She treats me like I am his sister and she is his mother.
This has always been a very stressful situation. My mom is a very manipulative person. I don't know what caused her to be this way. No one else in my family acts the way she does. Yet, somehow she's always been able to manipulate the people in her life. Our problems are very deep rooted and start back when I was a child but escalated as a teen and became worse as an adult due to the fact that she kept me away from my father, a man I never met, a man who lived a block away from me and she never told me. My mom works for the police department, she's a dispatcher and has access to all kinds of information. My father had a record, maybe this is why she kept him away from me, but she knew he was sick. He had liver cirhossis. He went into a coma and then eventually was taken from life support. She knew about it and when I finally was able to track down his family when I turned 18, they told me he had passed away. When confronted her, she told me she knew the whole time and when I told her how upset and angry I was, she laughed at my pain. She's careful to not act this way in front of other people (family, her friends and professionals) except my SO and the few friends I did have, have witnessed her acting this way when I am sure she didn't know she was being caught.
So far the plan my SO and I have had was to tough this situation I am living in out until he gets here and then disappear in the night and move a county away where we will be out of reach but not so far that I am away from my other family. Now, I am not so sure. All the advice I am getting is helpful and it's all something to take into consideration for the sake of my son and our happiness. Part of me wants to wait until he gets here because I won't have to drag my son through leaving and going into a shelter, or living on food stamps. My son DOES have insurance through the state, so we're set there. I just don't know. Our plan is solid because SO knows he has that car to get out here, he has a GOOD job here. Part of me is scared of what will happen in the next 3-6 months before he does get here. I just have A LOT to think about but I don't feel I have a lot of time.