Kanga has been less than appropriate at our recent family visits (when the younger kids come). Two visits ago she screamed and yelled and refused to visit with them. We ended up getting the crisis counselor and Kanga and I met with her for over an hour and finally got Kanga to spend 10 minutes with her siblings. The next visit was better but when Eeyore got agitated because he was scared (of her). She decided visits were stupid. She tells her therapist that the visits don't go well cause she doesn't know who the kids are anymore cause they have changed a lot since she last lived with them almost 2 years ago. (Fair point). So, we are doing therapist-supervised phone calls with the sibs 1:1. Of course, with therapist prepping her with a list of questions to ask the sibs (how was school? etc) and cue-ing her throughout, it has been fine. The thing that gets me is after each one Kanga declares "I am proud of me for talking nice to them." Tone of voice like it is a big freaking deal that she can have a 5-10 minute supervised conversation without being inappropriate. I'm sorry. I know that we need to take baby steps. Especially because funding is always tenuous due to quarterly renewals. But, seriously, I'm suppose to do backflips because my 15-year old can do this??? I really, really want to reply..."Kanga, this is a preschool skill. There is no room for pride in mastering this. This is so basic, it is pathetic that it takes TWO adults to make it happen for you."