Just Venting, I guess

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by mekki, Oct 18, 2007.

  1. mekki

    mekki New Member

    I wonder why it has taken my 10 yr old bipolar/Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified adopted son being taken into State custody to get the help he needs?? Why did I have to go to the State and say "I cannot have him in my home anymore" to get them to really listen? Why did it take him breaking every window in my apartment for someone to step in?

    Now, I'm sure he's scared and angry in a new place (a foster home at this point, which isn't going to do anyone any good, including the foster home).

    Still waiting for "approval" from those in power to admit him to a long term residential facility.

    I am heartbroken, tired and depressed. But hey, I'm only the mom, right??
  2. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Hi Mekki! I'm really sorry that things went this way for you. It would be great if all of the states would realize that while they decide whether or not to approve residential placement, they're further traumatizing the child and his family.

    It's a dam* shame! :grrr:

    I'll keep you in my thoughts!

  3. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat


    Cyber hugs, for all the help that they are. So sorry for your mommy heart.

    You found a safe place to land. When you feel up to it, please put a signature in your post so we can get a better idea who you are (and learn more about your difficult child) so we can help you.

    So sorry that you had to com looking for us. Very glad that you did find us. Welcome to the board.

    (love your avatar!!)
  4. tired Cheryl

    tired Cheryl New Member


    I cannot imagine the pain that you are going through! Hugs and prayers.

  5. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    I very much feel your pain. You have landed in a good place. Vent away. We all need somewhere to do that.

  6. Oh I feel so much for you! So sorry it has taken this for your child to get help. Best wishes to you!

  7. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    It is sad and infuriating that it takes the worst things to happen before much needed help is given. It is a shame that this can happen. I'm so sorry-gentle hugs to you.
  8. mekki

    mekki New Member

    Thanks for the support and welcome! I'm glad I found this place just when I needed it :smile:

    I've been praying for a long time for some relief/help and sometimes, God answers our prayers in a different way than we expected. So, I'm going to "try" to keep faith that this will all work out for the best.

    I added a little info to my signature ...
  9. sweetiegirlz

    sweetiegirlz New Member

    I'm sorry.
  10. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    Welcome to the board.

    I'm so sorry that this is what it took in order for your family to get any help.

    Crossing fingers and sending up good thoughts that the approval comes through.
  11. hopefloats

    hopefloats New Member

    Wow, so sorry! But it did take a lot of courage to do that. Hopeful for you!
  12. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I am so sorry. The system sure does put a lot of wear and tear on us and the kiddos.

    Sending hugs and prayers to you!