I’m so upset and confused. I’m mad, sad, frustrated and exhausted. I have two step sons that live with us full time for the last four years. I also have a three year old and a 2 month old. I want nothing more than for us to all be able to get along and feel safe and comfortable in our home. Our 18 year old still kind of in high school has been doing on a very quick downward spiral the last year. He always was so good independent got decent grades and was respectful. However over the last year he has started to get very disrespectful towards my husband and I he refuses to follow our rules. Has shown us some major anger issues that has resulted with me being very uncomfortable with him around his sisters. It all started about a year ago when he started smoking pot and drinking grades were slipping he would always just tell us he had it under control and never really discuss it with us. He totaled his car as a hit and run(ran over a speed limit sign) with provisional license with a car packed full of minors while he was under the influence. We are so grateful no one was hurt. All he got was a $500 fine so he thinks it’s a funny story now. Since then has gotten a ticket a month speeding parking running red lights ect. He works and we made him pay for his own car but lost his last job for stealing. Now has a new job and is working part time and showing up to school when he wants to. Is supposed to graduate but refuses to go to class. He got no reason pulled a stick out of his 2.5 year old sisters hand which left a huge splinter with a bunch of bloody scrapes and little splinters in her hands and just said that probably hurt you should probably check her hands with no remorse. Just a she deserved it attitude. Another time came home in a crazy mood all over the place said he needed help. We immediately got him signed up for an inpatient program but since he is 18 he decided he didn’t like it the next day and had them check him out since he only felt that way since he was coming down off of Molly. We sat down and told him the rules after that Home by 10 on school night stay out one weekend night and be home by 12 other weekend nights and pass drug tests to live at our house and don’t bring drugs in our house and if he couldn’t do that he had to leave. First time late he lied we caught him out for a night. The next week he came home late snuck his girlfriend in smoked pot and cigarettes in our house. Kicked him out for a week. He care back and two weekend later we find out he hasn’t been going to school he came home late since he found out we wouldn’t be home and bailed on school again that next morning. We confronted him about everything and it turned into a huge argument I told him he was being selfish and he flipped me off said f*ck you you don’t know how to be a parent we told him to get out and packed his stuff and set it outside for him to come get. As angry as I am, I’m still so sad. I just feel so guilty I don’t know what else we could have done we have no control and I need a safe place for ourr other kids. I know this is long and it’s not even half of it. Anyone else having issues any other things you have tried?