Preface: To Somewhereout there, this whole post is not responding direcly to you, so please don't take offense. I appreciate your response.☺
For you, Yes, these are the same thing my son as a manager said. As far as I know, he was not into alcohol & drugs. His addiction has been porn. After he lost his job, he was spending money that I had been given him to help with his apartment, etc.
So, when I found it out, I had to set strict boundaries, which has been very difficult for me. Also, I co-signed for his car ( I know, I know) and it has made things complicated. He is now in another state and I am not comfortable letting the insurance go until he gets it changed. (I have gotten feedback on this.)
Luckily, he has started back with the car payments. He is such a procrastinator, I do not want him dragging his feet about switching the plates to KY from NC and getting it insured. That is what I am saying. He may very well do it; however, it is agonizing for me until it is done & basically out of my control....unless the car gets put in his name, which will not be possible with his track record probably.
I know I have messed up getting the car in my name as well.I had to set boundaries before & he walked to work (4 miles one way for 4 years.) So, I thought he had learned his lesson, which I think he did. But losing the job in April and finding out he was using the money I gave him PLUS him being hospitalized and evicted was overwhelming.
Yes, he brought a lot of this on his own....and now, because of the financial issues, I am still involved, as much as I want to set boundaries. I am trying really hard to not beat myself up about this. So, (& this is not for you, Somewhereout there .because you were not saying this; but...if one wants to be supportive, please don't tell me I should not have co-signed the car. I have that part figured out.
Thank you,
GStorm