hi
so, i've asked for about 4 years now for husband to communicate to me the days events and not just his ex wife. of which he'll text in the a.m. and get kids schedules talk about how "they'll" manage thru day yet me who lives here gets zero info.
pisses me off to no end. soo sick of it. yet years prior difficult child is never here so its' not a big deal.
yet now she is. so today we have a tough back to back schedule of tutors. she hates science and math only tutor that is two hours long and she just can't seem to stay focused within that time frame.
so husband tells me today while first tutor is here his kid has half day today and has to get her. again no heads up. i said well if she can sit in den or in their bedroom than it'll work. house is small. so he says ok i'll go get her and pick up lunch for kids on way back that difficult child can eat on her break between tutors.
so, he leaves runs late. p.s. returns with-step kid and no lunch. line was too long and i gotta go to teacher conference with-his ex wife. why he goes with-her i dont' know either. i've been doing seperate teacher parent past ten years since my divorce.
his kids are fixated on mom and dad getting back together even though mom's gay why would they go together hmmm i guess same reason why he still texts his ex wife and she texts him constantly. supposedly about kids. like the one on our wedding night honeymoon, when we landed. oh dont' get me started lol.
so difficult child flips out because number 1 step kid is here and now she wants to play with her, had no heads up that this was our schedule today so she's really mad.
also he tells her i'll bring you lunch yet shows up with nothing due to lines and than states i gotta go. p.s. didn't know he was going to parent teacher conference.
best is he plans on leaving step kid here with me. while tutors are here. no way i said. she doesnt' listen to me much as of late, and i dont' need to sit in my room with-dog's and her while he sits with his ex at a conference.
so i'm ****** and sooo tired of him not getting i need communication. i have told him several times repeatedly very nicely you have to let me know what the plan is for the day especially now with difficult child home. does he listen? no ofcourse not.
even days he'll have switched at work which affect difficult child due to his kids not being here he gives me maybe a few hours notice or night before. does ex know ahead of time. ofcourse she does.
soooo aggrivated right now i could scream. so difficult child is flipping out i calmed her down somewhat. she's threatening to walk away from the tutor when he shows up i told her do what you want. it's either this or 7 to 3 in school 5 days a week which we both know you arent' ready for.
thanks for letting me vent it was either this or screaming. this seemed like the more logical approach
so, i've asked for about 4 years now for husband to communicate to me the days events and not just his ex wife. of which he'll text in the a.m. and get kids schedules talk about how "they'll" manage thru day yet me who lives here gets zero info.
pisses me off to no end. soo sick of it. yet years prior difficult child is never here so its' not a big deal.
yet now she is. so today we have a tough back to back schedule of tutors. she hates science and math only tutor that is two hours long and she just can't seem to stay focused within that time frame.
so husband tells me today while first tutor is here his kid has half day today and has to get her. again no heads up. i said well if she can sit in den or in their bedroom than it'll work. house is small. so he says ok i'll go get her and pick up lunch for kids on way back that difficult child can eat on her break between tutors.
so, he leaves runs late. p.s. returns with-step kid and no lunch. line was too long and i gotta go to teacher conference with-his ex wife. why he goes with-her i dont' know either. i've been doing seperate teacher parent past ten years since my divorce.
his kids are fixated on mom and dad getting back together even though mom's gay why would they go together hmmm i guess same reason why he still texts his ex wife and she texts him constantly. supposedly about kids. like the one on our wedding night honeymoon, when we landed. oh dont' get me started lol.
so difficult child flips out because number 1 step kid is here and now she wants to play with her, had no heads up that this was our schedule today so she's really mad.
also he tells her i'll bring you lunch yet shows up with nothing due to lines and than states i gotta go. p.s. didn't know he was going to parent teacher conference.
best is he plans on leaving step kid here with me. while tutors are here. no way i said. she doesnt' listen to me much as of late, and i dont' need to sit in my room with-dog's and her while he sits with his ex at a conference.
so i'm ****** and sooo tired of him not getting i need communication. i have told him several times repeatedly very nicely you have to let me know what the plan is for the day especially now with difficult child home. does he listen? no ofcourse not.
even days he'll have switched at work which affect difficult child due to his kids not being here he gives me maybe a few hours notice or night before. does ex know ahead of time. ofcourse she does.
soooo aggrivated right now i could scream. so difficult child is flipping out i calmed her down somewhat. she's threatening to walk away from the tutor when he shows up i told her do what you want. it's either this or 7 to 3 in school 5 days a week which we both know you arent' ready for.
thanks for letting me vent it was either this or screaming. this seemed like the more logical approach