OK, so here is my theory. It could be really off but, I don't think so! Here goes: If any of you read my previous post about my difficult child (15yo) you will get a little history. To add to that, she has been going to therapy since she was 6 yo. She has done some really scarey things: Stabbed my brother at age 6, Cut him with- a bbq pit cleaner (across his eye!) age7, Tried to suffocate her sister (age 4), Shoved a plastic toy broom down her sisters throat (to see what it would look like) (age 8), threw a kitten into an open faced fan because she wanted to see what it would look like (age 4). One therapist explained it as: she has no remorse, she has a fantasy belief, she had to do all of these things because of the situation (ie: she had to cut my lil brother because my other brother left the knife out!) not upset, no remorse. So she is no strange to what they want to hear. I believe that she went to the hospital and told them exactly what they wanted to hear. (She has a history of going for 2 or so sessions and listening to the questions they ask, and then the next visit focusing on that and turning the tears on!) Kept complete control and turned the whole reason she was in there around. Is it possible for them to pull it together that well when needed? I know that she doesn't get in too much trouble at school but, we are having a REALLY hard time at home. Just wanted some opinions from people who have been there. And why is it that if we go in and explain to a therapist about past behaviors in therapy and such they look at us from that point on as the controlling parent????? Thanks again!