I have posted on this site many times asking for advice for my 16 year old son. He has been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and the last several years have been extremely difficult. His angry moods would dictate the mood of the whole household and his temper was making life hell for the rest of our family. We have tried everything,honestly everything. From weekly therapy to wilderness therapy, diversion program from police, you name it. He has tried many medications and won't stay on them. He is now a regular marijuana smoker. And I am certain that is all he is using. He has been tested numerous times. I hate it, he knows how we feel. We have taken it away, grounded him, called the police, etc. I tell you nothing stops him. We have finally gotten to the point where we don't fight him. Meaning I don't read his text messages and warn the dealers to stay away. I don't tear his room apart looking. I don't follow him when he slips out of the house. The line we have drawn is, do not bring it near our house,do not drive and do not go to school high. Here is the reason I am posting. We have gone from a household of chaos and anger with him snapping at everyone, raging and breaking things, refusing to help or do his chores to a household where he is calm, talkative, joins in with his siblings, is willing to help out and even go above to help out his siblings. There is peace for the first time in years. I would never choose this and I am well aware what weed is doing to his young brain, etc. He is still participating in weekly therapy and of course I am praying that he will see for himself that this is not the answer. Last night my younger daughter asked us why we are allowing him to use drugs and not stopping him. I couldn't even come up with a decent answer. Except to say, he has free will. I feel so conflicted and sick with worry. Worry about the horrible message that is being sent. The only thing that we have left as a possibility is to force him into rehab. Again. And honestly I have no idea how to make that happen. In a little over a year he will be 18. I know its crazy to say but he is going to school regularly, working on his schoolwork, keeping grades up, paying for his own gas and personal expenses, helping out around the house, and generally pleasant to be around. Yet smoking weed several times a day. If anyone has advice, I would love to hear it.