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Yesterday afternoon, husband had a golf date with the head boss of the company he works for, so Aly was here in the afternoon and evening with me.
J was with Older easy child's for the day, so Aly and I had some alone time.
My sis had purchased this cool sprinkler that the kids could run through and Aly was invited to play along with. Of course I said yes and she got into the swim suit she leaves here.
Before going out to the backyard, I ask her if she is done with her period, or does she want to borrow a pair of shorts, just in case. She FLIPPED out, starting screaming and crying that she didn't want to lie to me. ????? So, in my confusion to this sudden outburst, I somehow get her to hear me asking what she is talking/screaming about.
She says she NEVER had her period. I looked at her shocked, we had talked nearly every day, me sympathyzing over cramps, headaches and what a pain periods are. She went into detail with me how she took care of her sanitary needs at school and at home. This went on all week long, whenever we talked, etc.
She told the school nurse, she told her teacher, she told her afterschool program. She shared with her Auntie, her older sister, etc.
I am just not sure how to handle this situation at all. This isn't a usual "one lie" thing where it ends and she apologizes and pretends to learn from it. This is an elaborate "lie" or "Aly reality" that went on for a whole week and continued into last night.
Her explanation of why she even said it in the first place was "I dunno". When I and husband said that wasn't good enough, she said she was "practicing for when it did happen". I am sorry, but this went WAY past practicing. It was right out lying and that is a HUGE no no in our family.
I couldn't talk to her anymore last night about it, said I needed to think on this and talk with her about it in a few days.
I mean, isn't this a very odd thing to do??? Carry on a "lie" or a delusion for an entire week. She wrapped up pads in toilet paper and threw them away all week long. husband said he never opened them up, said "why would I?", and I agree, why would we not believe that this was happening? He called me when he got home with her and checked her garbage and, sure enough, a ton of pads wrapped up with NOTHING on them.
Last night I did tell her I was very disappointed in her not telling the truth and carrying on a lie of any sort for such a long time was unacceptable.
Not sure what the consequences should be, going to call therapist this morning and see if she has any suggestions.
I am so sad, how can I trust anything she says? And things were just starting to go so well with her and I. Why did she sabotage herself, yet again?
I hugged onto her hard, told her that I loved her no matter what, but I had to be able to trust that what she tells me is the truth, always!
Sad mamma,
Vickie
Yesterday afternoon, husband had a golf date with the head boss of the company he works for, so Aly was here in the afternoon and evening with me.
J was with Older easy child's for the day, so Aly and I had some alone time.
My sis had purchased this cool sprinkler that the kids could run through and Aly was invited to play along with. Of course I said yes and she got into the swim suit she leaves here.
Before going out to the backyard, I ask her if she is done with her period, or does she want to borrow a pair of shorts, just in case. She FLIPPED out, starting screaming and crying that she didn't want to lie to me. ????? So, in my confusion to this sudden outburst, I somehow get her to hear me asking what she is talking/screaming about.
She says she NEVER had her period. I looked at her shocked, we had talked nearly every day, me sympathyzing over cramps, headaches and what a pain periods are. She went into detail with me how she took care of her sanitary needs at school and at home. This went on all week long, whenever we talked, etc.
She told the school nurse, she told her teacher, she told her afterschool program. She shared with her Auntie, her older sister, etc.
I am just not sure how to handle this situation at all. This isn't a usual "one lie" thing where it ends and she apologizes and pretends to learn from it. This is an elaborate "lie" or "Aly reality" that went on for a whole week and continued into last night.
Her explanation of why she even said it in the first place was "I dunno". When I and husband said that wasn't good enough, she said she was "practicing for when it did happen". I am sorry, but this went WAY past practicing. It was right out lying and that is a HUGE no no in our family.
I couldn't talk to her anymore last night about it, said I needed to think on this and talk with her about it in a few days.
I mean, isn't this a very odd thing to do??? Carry on a "lie" or a delusion for an entire week. She wrapped up pads in toilet paper and threw them away all week long. husband said he never opened them up, said "why would I?", and I agree, why would we not believe that this was happening? He called me when he got home with her and checked her garbage and, sure enough, a ton of pads wrapped up with NOTHING on them.
Last night I did tell her I was very disappointed in her not telling the truth and carrying on a lie of any sort for such a long time was unacceptable.
Not sure what the consequences should be, going to call therapist this morning and see if she has any suggestions.
I am so sad, how can I trust anything she says? And things were just starting to go so well with her and I. Why did she sabotage herself, yet again?
I hugged onto her hard, told her that I loved her no matter what, but I had to be able to trust that what she tells me is the truth, always!
Sad mamma,
Vickie