Major update

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by toughlovin, Sep 16, 2016.

  1. toughlovin

    toughlovin Well-Known Member

    Hi everyone, ok so most of you know a couple of years ago my son skipped town and moved across country to avoid some arrest warrants for violating probation. He has bouncing around since then between rehabs and trying to work etc. about 3 weeks ago he called and said he was sick of being on the run and was thinking of coming back and turning himself in and doing his time! Wow this was huge. So we helped him to take Amtrak back which took 4 days. He stayed with some friends, stayed with us, went to the dentist to get 14 cavities filled and then turned himself in on Wednesday!

    It has been interesting because in many ways having him here was healing. He is not sober which definitely worries me but I am in the place that that is his problem. It was very stressful waiting until he did turn himself in because we had no idea how much time he would get

    In the end he got a gift and only got about 3.5 months and then it will be behind him. I am relieved and a bit concerned about what he does when he gets out.
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  2. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    That is huge. Try not to live in the future. You can only live in this second. Live it with positive intention.
  3. worried sick mother

    worried sick mother Active Member

    Wow!!! This is major! Hopefully he is ready for a change and being locked up 3.5 months will be a wake up call. Try not to worry about when he gets out, focus on the peace you have right now. 14 cavities??? Sounds like my son and my husband is a dentist, free dental care . Drugs are hard on the teeth.
  4. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Maybe he will get clean in jail. Keep the faith!
  5. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    All I can say is Wow! Your son is full of surprises. Good for him - this was a major maturity move. 14 cavities - ouch!
  6. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    Sounds promising. Maybe this is the start of something good!
  7. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    I am so pleased that your son is TAKING RESPONSIBILITY. That is huge!!! I hope this is is the beginning of seeing himself as a grown man who is doing "the next right thing". Maybe someday my son will do the same.

  8. dakini

    dakini New Member

    That's great news for you! Way to go son :)
  9. mof

    mof Momdidntsignupforthis

    Good news...and 3.5 months..that's sober time!

    We had the cavity experience too....
  10. toughlovin

    toughlovin Well-Known Member

    He is full of surprises both good and bad. I wish he was committed to being sober which he is not but he does want to turn his life around which is a start. My daughter is doing well and is not living at home now so we feel at this point we need to support him. The challenge will be when he gets out is supporting and at the same time setting appropriate boundaries so that we can live our lives too
  11. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    That is huge news TL. Well he will be sober for 3.5 months now won't he? Hopefully he can find a job when he gets out and start living a normal life. My daughter is not sober either but she has found a way to keep it in check, at least for now.
  12. toughlovin

    toughlovin Well-Known Member

    Yes and a friend of his who he met in a program who came to court with him and has turned his life around said he will have a job for him when he gets out so hopefully that will work out.
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  13. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    This is so great to hear. Hoping once he gets out he will stay sober and continue to amaze you.
  14. JaneBetty

    JaneBetty Active Member

    Toughlovin, that's good news for you and your family and especially your son.