My son is gifted, ADHD, and EBD (although theres some confusion because gifted + ADHD can look a lot like EBD). Its a long story but difficult child channels his inner Billy Madison and tells someone at school that he has a list of people that he doesnt want to let live until age 30 - as well as a list of people that he wants to let live until age 30 or something to that effect. This gets interpreted as a threat and hes suspended for four days. The rumor mill is very active (and facilitated by the school). The other childs parents think that this has all been overblown by the school but none of this can be undone. This brings him to seven suspended days for the year. First were told that we need to have a re-admittance conference. Next, were told that he needs to go through a risk assessment interview with a psychologist before he can be re-admitted. Finally, thats cancelled, and the school schedules a Manifestation Hearing where weve been told that theyll present us with a plan regarding his future (mentioning a separate designated EBD classroom in the district). The draft manifestation hearing documents already had been filled out that this was not a manifestation of his disability and that the IEP was followed. They then handwrote in the other options (yes vs. no). They wont share the plan with us until the meeting. Weve always disagreed with the EBD label but accepted it since it was the only way to get him some help with his emotional/social needs. We go back and forth on it but its still on the IEP. Looking back at his IEP Evaluation his FBA specifically discusses anger management skills, social skills, and coping strategies and identified poor anger control and excessive sense of persecution as areas of significant concern. It would seem like a direct manifestation of whats covered by the IEP but at the same time the school wants to railroad us into accepting a transfer to the dedicated EBD class. Any thoughts on how to proceed with this? How hostile is this meeting going to be? How is a decision actually made (are my wife and I just two votes out of six - so the school does whatever it wants)?