Well I got a call from the program my son is in today. This program has been really great and gives us a lot of peace of mind. They work with people where they are when they are not in the residential program. My son and I had a text conversation thurs night after he reached out to me. He was more open about some of his struggles so I was guessing he was drinking because that is the time he lets his guard down with me. Yesterday I texted him and he said he was drinking and didnt want us to see him like that. So I knew he was not doing well..... but really there is nothing for me to do. So today the program called, the guy who called is really great. He had a conversation with my son who was open with him, admitted he was drinking, wanted to finish what he had and then he knew he needed medical detox. Which of course means he has been drinking a whole lot over a period of time. So they are n the process of looking for options for him when and if he is ready to go. The guy said he has an agreement that he will stay in touch with this guy (who is on all weekend) and that if he goes off the radar then the guy will go to his place to check on him as its a safety issue. Such a huge thing for us because since they are doing this I will be able to sleep tonight!!! So they are looking for places that take his state run insurance. I said we would pay co-pays but not for private treatment. We have done that enough. If he has to go to a bottom of the barrel place then so be it. So hopefully he is once again getting to a place where he knows and wants help and will actually figure it out this time. It is definitely good for me to stay out of it...and let it happen however it happens.