Beth,
Thanks for the update, I have been worried about you. Be sure you and husband are taking care of yourselves and each other. This is so very hard. Glad difficult child 1 is in a good place.
DHS should be held very much accountable, and I hope you manage to get this through. Is it possible to get your state representatives involved? This is the kind of thing that the media might also be interested in, though you certainly have had enough of them.
Hugs,
Susie